How to Be Chivalrous

The term "chivalry" basically came about to mean the ideal qualities of a medieval knight back in medieval times. Such qualities included courage, honor, loyalty, and consideration of others, especially to women. To be chivalrous, a man would be marked by honor and generosity. In modern times, chivalry has come to mean different things to different people. Some of these meanings are traditional, whereas others may be more modern and current. If you are interested in being chivalrous, this article will explain ways of being chivalrous.

Difficulty:

Moderate

Instructions

Medieval Chivalry

1. The first thing to do to be chivalrous as in medieval times is to be gracious to a woman. This means you open doors for her, you let her go first when entering a room and you give her your coat when it's cold out.

2. Pursuit of a woman can also be chivalrous. Examples of this are when the man always pays and the man sends her flowers. There is a pursuit that is adorned with small thoughtful gifts and showing a sample of taking care of the woman later.

3. Once a woman is part of your life, chivalry may continue. You hold hands with her, dance with her and continue to make her first in your life.

4. Be loyal and a man of your word. Do not cheat on the woman, or do anything that would show disloyalty to your partner.

More Modernly Chivalry

1. Although all the traditional steps in being chivalrous are all well and good, there may be other things that a modern girl is looking for. You could continue using the traditional methods of chivalry and add modern tenets to them.

2. In general, modern chivalry is going to be about respecting a woman. Call when you say you will. If you say you're going to call on Friday evening, do it. If you can't for some reason, then send an email or text message letting her know and when you can call.

3. Only make promises you can keep. If you can't keep a promise, don't make it in the first place. If you think you might be able to go out Friday night, then say that you might be able to go. Don't promise and then back out.

4. Let the woman know how you feel. Show signs of affection. Give her a kiss in public so she knows you want everyone to know she's with you. Introduce her to your family and friends and make her feel special in general.

5. Do not disrespect the woman. Never say bad things about her to your friends. Keep these thoughts to yourself. If you have to, write in a personal journal.

6. Tell her how you feel and give things a chance to work out. If a problem arises, talk about it and try to work through it instead of just ending the relationship.

7. If the woman you are pursuing or dating is a feminist, you may even have more to consider about modern chivalry. This type of woman may not want the traditional chivalry but only the modern. She may want to split the cost of meals, showing that she is able to care for herself and that she's not looking for anything from you. She may want you to be equals and make decisions together.

8. A modern woman may even want to pursue you once in a while. She may buy you flowers, or buy you dinner or a small gift. Take this to mean she likes you, and appreciate how far our society has come.

Tips & Warnings

• Chivalry is not just about opening doors and sending flowers. It's a whole attitude of treating someone with the respect and dignity they deserve. Chivalry also is not just limited to men and women and dating. It's also about being loyal and having courage and honor in any personal and business relationships. Keep this in mind with any decisions you make of how to treat people in general.

• Don't stop liking a girl just because she's a feminist and wants to be nice to you as well. Think about how cool it actually is that someone is being that thoughtful instead of getting upset that you're not just chasing her.