How to win your man back

Winning someone's heart can be a challenging endeavor, but winning someone's heart the second time around can be close to impossible. Many women wonder what the key is to getting her man back, especially if she feels the relationship had potential long-term status. Men think differently than women and in order to snag your man back, you have to go about it in a "guy friendly" manner. Learn how to win back the man of your dreams and hopefully live happily ever after.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A past flame or lover
• <br>Patience
• <br>A makeover
• <br>Ability to be open
• <br>Tact
• <br>Common friends

1. First, decide whether or not you truly want to win your man back. Many women spiral into depression and self-induced guilt at the end of any relationship, be it positive or not. Women tend to look for creative ways to "fix" a problem, especially in their private and personal lives. Decide whether your ex-boyfriend, lover, or husband is even worth your efforts. If you truly think he is, then go for it!

2. Enlist the help of a friend you share with your ex-significant other. Pick someone who really knows your man deep down. Ask them how your old lover is doing, if he's dating anyone, and if he has mentioned you at all. Information is key in winning back the love of your life. Your man may have a new girlfriend, for all you know. It's better to know what you're working with from the offset.

3. Get a makeover. We've all been told, "someone should love you for who you are, not what you look like." Think again. Though inner beauty and personality obviously win out over drop-dead good looks, many men are driven by appearance and visual stimulation. What does it hurt to join a kickboxing class, cut your hair, or get your makeup done professionally? It will only boost your self-esteem, which in turn, makes you that much more appealing to your old lover.

4. Understand why the relationship soured. If it was a mutual breakup, you surely played a part in the cutting of ties with your ex. If you feel he is to blame, you may want to reconsider even contacting him again. After all, who knows if people truly change that quickly? Listen to yourself and the advice of friends and relatives. Give yourself time. The urge to run back to a perceived Mr. Right may just be your craving something familiar and safe.

5. Contact your man! Rather than calling his cell right off the bat, ease into communication in order to see where he stands. Jot him a quick e-mail asking him how he is doing and what he's been up to. Or, text him something along the lines of, "How have you been? Just saying hello." Give him the opportunity to respond and take the communication further. If he doesn't respond, you will know where you stand.

6. Do it sober. It cannot be stressed enough that you must not be under the influence of any substance when contacting a past flame. This will only heighten your emotions, either good ones or sad ones. If you're meeting up with an old lover, try to stay away from alcoholic beverages. You definitely don't want to hinder your chances of communicating with your man with all you've got.

7. Take it slow. Ease into a re-blossoming relationship. Go on dates, but keep them casual. It's never a good reason to jump into bed with your ex-lover simply because you've missed him. Court each other. Leave each other notes and send flirty e-mails and text messages. Show them you're serious by going slow and steady.

Tips & Warnings

• Always use your best tact. What seems like a great idea from the get go, isn't always the best for you or your old lover.
• <br>Use caution when opening your heart back up to someone from your past.
• Never go back to an abusive or controlling past flame simply because you miss him. Chances are, he'll treat you the same way.