How to tell your best friend she's shallow

Best friends are great to have. Not only are they fun to hang out with, but they are generally there when you need a shoulder to lean on or assistance with a problem. However, best friends are humans too, thus meaning that they have flaws. This is especially true if your best friend happens to be shallow. You can help your best friend minimize this flaw by following these tips on how to tell your best friend that she is shallow.

Instructions

1. First ,it is important that you find a place where both of you are comfortable and can have a discussion without any interruptions. This may at your home, her home or even the park. Telling her she’s shallow isn’t an easy task, and being somewhere that both of you feel comfortable at can help a little bit in cushioning the blow you are about to drop. Under no circumstances should you discuss this in front of other people or even in a place where other people may overhear. This will only cause hurt and embarrassment.

2. Begin the conversation by telling your best friend what a good person she is. Providing positive feedback often makes people more receptive to the negative comments and criticism you provide later in the conversation. Point out what makes her a good friend as well as a good person.

3. Being honest is important when talking to your best friend about being shallow. This applies to both the positive compliments you provide as well as the criticism you dish out later. Your best friend will feel betrayed if she knows that you are lying when pointing out positive things that are simply not true. In addition, if you aren’t honest about the criticism you have, then you aren’t being fair to her. The only way she can change negative things about herself is to know exactly what is wrong.

4. Remind her that the only reason why you are telling her is that you care about her. In no way is telling her an attempt to bring her down or make you feel better. Instead, it is simply about making her a better person, something you are willing to help her do since she is your best friend.

5. Offer to help your best friend work on the fact that she is shallow. There are a number of different things that you can do in your city that will help her get some perspective into other people's lives and literally walk a mile in their shoes. For example, volunteering with those less privileged can really add some depth to your best friend as she gets a glance into lives that aren't ruled by beauty, money or material possessions.

6. Finally when telling your best friend she's shallow, you should expect some negative feedback or for her to even get angry. No one wants to hear negative things about themselves, thus they often become very sensitive when this occurs. This could cause your best friend to lash out in anger towards you or simply breakdown crying. Be ready to deal with her reaction and take the steps to repair your friendship if needed.