How to talk to a crush and ask him out

Approaching someone you have a crush on can seem like the most terrifying task in the world, but with a game plan and some confidence (real or fake) you cannot only talk to your crush, but make a move as well.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Talking to Your Crush

1. Make sure you are dressed in an outfit you find comfortable and attractive on yourself and make sure your hair looks good. Feeling good about your appearance will give you confidence.

2. Make sure that you and your crush are both at a relaxed social occasion. This could be a party, a sports event or the mall. This lends a feeling of casualness to your interaction.

3. Walk up to your crush confidently and at a properly timed moment. If he is in the middle of a conversation with other friends, wait for him to split off on his own or wait to make eye contact with the group and say hello to everyone at once.

4. When you get your crush alone, attempt to sound as casual as you can. Casual comes off as confident and confidence can be faked. Even if you don't feel confident, act like it.

5. Ask your crush a question about something that you know he recently did, such as star in a play or take a trip. When he answers, make sure you seem interested and react truthfully.

6. Continue the conversation normally, as if you are just talking to a friend. Mention a similar story of your own or comment on what he just said. During this time use your instincts to feel out if your crush is interested in you, not necessarily if they like you as much as you like them. Pay attention to how engaged they are and how they try to steer the conversation.

Asking Your Crush Out

1. Once you have reasonably assessed that your crush likes you, bring up an event that relates to what you have been talking about, such as a play, movie or sports event. Mention that you will be attending.

2. Tell your crush that you would love it if they would go with you. This makes it less of a question and more of an invitation to something you are already planning on attending.

3. If your crush says yes, get his number and tell him you will call him about the details soon. This doesn't have to be the end of the conversation, but your main goal has been accomplished. Congrats!

4. If he says no, figure out why. Possibly he is just busy that day or perhaps he is not interested in a date with you. Use your instincts to feel it out. If you are unsure, its best to leave it at "Well, if you ever want to go to (a movie, sports event), let me know, I would love to go with you." Then the ball is in his court.

Tips & Warnings

• Have friends near by so that no matter what happens, you can walk away from the conversation with your crush to a safe and loving place.

• Asking someone on a date takes a lot of nerve. No matter what, be proud of yourself for doing it.

• Boys are strange creatures. If your crush doesn't react well or does something to hurt your feelings, do not take it personally. Everyone is awkward about dating.