How to Alter your Personality

Being able to alter your personality can be both challenging and rewarding. It is challenging when confronted by a peer that you must deal with regularly. It is rewarding when the other person reacts to the way you react to them. Read on to learn how to alter your personality.

Things You'll Need

• A good mood
• Diligence

Instructions

1. Altering your personality is akin to changing the way you think about a person you do not like. Liking or disliking a person may make you susceptible to question your views on people. Either way it is how you manage to change your thought patterns that is more suitable to enhance your growth. That may be in the vein of your career, relationships or with family members. Altering your personality is the ability to recognize that change must be forthcoming. If you do not believe a change is required and you like the way you are just fine, then congratulations. You may be on a short list of infallible people who walked this earth. Most people feel even a minor change can help them in life.

2. If you do not like a person, whether it is a friend, co-worker or a family member, then you should ask yourself a question. Will that person ever change to the point where you will like him or her? If the answer is no, then ask another question. If you shifted your thought pattern just slightly to allow some modification to ingress in your thought process, would that person be more likable? It is a difficult question. Should you change your perception of the person even though that person will remain the same? The thought here should be; if I alerted my view of that person where I am more accepting of his or hers idiosyncrasies then will those traits I despise become more bearable?

3. If the answer is no then you are headed for the same situation you were in before. You would just have to deal with the person, ignore him or her or continue getting into verbal spats. The answer is to alter your perception. You alter your perception, you alter your reality and thus you alter your personality. They are all ingrained into similar categories. The negativity you feel toward that person may spill out into other areas of your life which can make life more difficult.

4. However, should you choose to transform your thinking into a more positive light and allow yourself the room for alteration, then seeing that individual in a new light may help shed some layers of dislike or hatred from your view. You can make up scenarios of why the person in question is so annoying. Could it be that he or she had a fight with their significant other? Did they not get enough sleep or coffee? Or is there genuine dislike for the other person that defies explanation? The former questions, among others, will help you dispel your animosity toward the other person. The latter one is more difficult to deal with. Without any rationale of why you do not like the person, it will be difficult to alter your personality to deal with him or her. You must overcome any stubbornness or genuine aversion toward people.

5. Another way to help yourself is to try to initiate conversation with him or her, even if you get a stone cold reception. If you have to deal with this individual on a daily or weekly basis, you might as well try the ‘kill them with kindness’ approach. Eventually the other person will become more hospitable. By reacting nicely to someone despite their cantankerous mood it will help you feel better because you know you are trying to alter your personality to accommodate their belittling ways.

6. Understand that altering your personality, does not mean altering the situation.

Tips & Warnings

• Be patient. The process may take a little while.

• Format your alteration around your needs but remember that co-workers, family and friends will try to sway you. Remain firm in your convictions.