How to Have a Good Marriage

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I've been married for 6 years now. We have 2 children and are going great. But when we first started, we had a lot of problems. We'd argue over alot of things including even the smallest things of who would do the dishes, etc. We've learned a lot of ourselves and have developed a system that works. It's a shame that so many marriages end in divorce. Some just weren't meant to be, but others are preventable. Here's some tips for a healthy marriage.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

Things You’ll Need:

Spouse
Time
Commitment
Understanding
Patience
Love

Step1

Possibly the most important thing to have in a marriage is good communication. You need to talk talk talk talk and more talk. None of us read minds or can walk on water. We need to be clear in how we express ourselves. You need to be constantly sharing your ideas, feelings, etc. This doesn't mean that you need hen-peck each other to death. It just means you need to make sure there are no misunderstandings even for things that are obvious.

Step2

You need to be honest with each other. You absolutely cannot hide things or talk about each other behind the others back (unless it's just a joke). Don't misunderstand this: I'm not advocating that you share every little thought, just know the difference between right and wrong. How do you tell in this gray world that we live in? Easy. If you feel it could be wrong, tell your partner. That's your conscience working on you. Don't let your so called intellect smooth things out.

Step3

You both need time together. One of the quickest way to end a marriage is if you both have very busy jobs that won't let any kind of time together. You need to eat dinners together and spend weekends together. No job is worth being apart from your family.

Step4

Possibly the hardest thing in a marriage is to deal with faults. We each have them. As long as they are not criminal in nature, try to nudge and help without overly criticizing. Forgiveness and longsuffering are also a part of this. But unlike the Almighty, we are human. We have conditions. So, our forgivenesses are always conditional in that the other person will not continue acting like a jerk or whatever is the problem.