How to Stop Fighting With a Stubborn Parent

It is difficult to watch a parent grow old. As their body slowly becomes less and less able to do things, parents can very often become depressed, or even angry with themselves. In many cases, this anger leads to stubbornness and conflict, but there are things you can do to stop fighting with a stubborn parent.

Difficulty: Moderate

Instructions

1. Take an honest look at your parent's situation. Is their stubbornness putting them or others in harm's way? If so, you may need to consider a more aggressive approach to dealing with the problem, regardless of whether it helps you stop fighting.

2. Use gentle nudging with your stubborn parent, rather than direct confrontation. Many times, merely making a suggestion or a request will get you farther than giving directions.

3. Remember that they are still your parent. They may have a hard time accepting what you say at times for that reason. This is normal and natural.

4. Stick to a rational conversation with your stubborn parent, rather than letting things become emotionally intense. Use verifiable facts and observations, rather than offering disputable opinions.

5. Use "I" statements. For example, if your parent is being stubborn about taking her medication, say "I'm worried about you, mom. I want you to be around for a long, long time. Taking your medicine helps me out."

6. Learn to give in when it's not important. While you were growing up, your parents let some of your stubborn behaviors slide. Do the same for them now.