How to Get Dad to Stop Picking on You

Life is not much fun if Dad is constantly picking on you. Improve your communication skills and put forth a little effort and get dad to stop this behavior quickly.

Instructions

1. Determine the hot buttons. Nagging from parents is usually predictable. If there is one subject that your dad constantly picks on you about, try to address his concerns and end the unpleasantness. For example, if dad reminds you several times a week to mow the grass, just get it done. Procrastinating only gives him more opportunities to pick on you and if you must complete the task anyway, do it in a timely fashion to avoid the lectures.

2. Take time to really listen to your dad. If his criticisms are logical at all, try putting yourself in his shoes for just a little while and see things from his perspective. You don't have to agree with his point of view, but just listening and letting him feel heard by you might stop the constant nagging. Even if it seems like a personal attack, simply listen without defending or fighting back. Sometimes when people are allowed to vent their feelings freely, they lose the motivation to continue picking on you in an effort to be heard.

3. Communicate your feelings to your dad. After you have given dad the opportunity to talk, ask for his ear in return. If you feel dad's picking on you is unjust, tell him so, and back it up with facts. For example, if your dad nags you about something personal such as your appearance or your friends, explain to him that while you love him and value his opinions on some things, such personal things are for you to decide. This should be done without a lot of attitude and in a non-confrontational way. If your dad is reasonable at all, he should respect your feelings.

4. Distance yourself from your dad. If your dad's criticism goes beyond the typical friction that most parents and children have, you might have to protect yourself by distancing yourself emotionally from your father. Extremely critical parents can have a negative impact on self esteem and confidence. If you discover this is happening to you, find another person to go to as an authority figure. Your mother, older sibling, or respected teacher can help fill that role if your father is causing you suffering beyond what can be expected in a normal relationship.