How to Help Someone Deal With the Suicide of a Loved One

Death by suicide is more complex than simply mourning the loss of a loved one. The death is sudden and unexpected, but blame can prevent normal grieving. There are ways you can give positive support even if the person doesn't seem to want it.

Instructions

1. Expect the grief to be intense and mixed with feelings of shame, guilt and anger. Be supportive and understanding as the survivor works through a range of emotions. Encourage releasing emotions rather than holding them in.

2. Engage in active listening, even if the person is repeating the same information over and over. Help the person come to their own understanding about what has happened.

3. Contact suicide awareness and support groups. Find out what resources they have and connect these groups to the person dealing with the suicide.

4. Pair the person with another suicide survivor by accessing suicide survivors' comfort and network groups.

5. Seek guidance from other resources such as clergy and counselors. Encourage the person to read suicide-support books.

6. Provide extra support and comfort during holidays, birthdays, anniversaries and other significant dates. Don't be afraid to talk and reminisce about the person who committed suicide.

7. Look for ways to provide distractions and happier thoughts. Adopting a pet can help someone cope with the loss of a loved one.

Tips & Warnings

• Everyone grieves differently so allow the person to grieve in their own way.

Resources

• How to take action after a suicide.
• Tools for dealing with suicide.