How to Get Support if a Child was Lost to Adoption

Giving a child up for adoption is one of the biggest and most life altering decisions a mother can make. Whatever the reason for putting a child up for adoption, the birth mother will experience loss and grief. Along with the support of family and friends, it is often necessary to seek help from others who have lived through the same experience and trained professionals.

Instructions

1. Read literature about the impact of giving a child up for adoption. Find books at your local library or book store. Look for titles such as "The third choice: A woman's guide to placing a child for adoption" by Foge, L., & Mosconi, G. or "Birthmothers: Women who have relinquished babies for adoption tell their stories" by Jones, M. B.

2. Meet with a support group. Locate a support group in your area by visiting the national foster care and adoption website.

3. Join an online support group. Use this source anytime you feel in need of extra support. Share your story with other birth mothers that have put their child up for adoption, and receive feedback and advice from others who have experienced similar circumstances.

4. Seek help from a family counselor or licensed psychologist. Find a counselor or psychologist by contacting your medical insurance carrier.

Resources

• Find local support groups at the child welfare site.
• Join a birth mom support group at Cafe Mom.