How to Be Cool About What People Say

In an ideal world, people would focus on each other's attributes instead of their flaws. In reality, the ugly side of human nature can be petty, critical and judgmental. This requires each of us to learn to be cool about what people say. Developing a thick skin can help you maintain strong relationships and keep a positive outlook during hard times.

Instructions

1. Be your own best friend. Know your faults but focus on your attributes. Self-acceptance will help you get comfortable in your skin. You can't deal with criticism and gossip if you are chronically insecure.

2. Develop a strong filter. To be cool about what people say, consider the source's intentions. If you're dealing with a loved one, it is likely that they don't mean to hurt you. Honor the difference between constructive criticism and malicious gossip.

3. Learn from what's said. Once you've filtered out the useless negativity, use what's left to your advantage. Further develop your strong suits and work on any flaws or weaknesses. In the end, anything anyone says can't hurt you if you don't take it personally.

4. Recognize the right to an opinion. Whether positive or negative, people have the right to think whatever they want. Just remember that you don't have to share those thoughts. Your opinion of yourself is more important than those of others.

5. Laugh it off. The best defense against criticism and gossip is a sense of humor. Sometimes the things people say are just ridiculous. Take it all in stride.

6. Confront the person. Let him know how you feel about the situation. You may be able to come to a resolution.

Tips & Warnings

• People often gossip and criticize because of their insecurities, so be as compassionate as possible.