How to Make People Feel Good
Whether it's a friend in need or a stranger on the street, we've known people we've wanted to cheer up. Trying to make someone feel good isn't as tough as it seems, but it doesn't always work out the way it should, and sometimes it can even backfire completely and make things worse. There are some simple things you can do to brighten up someone's day.
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Smile when you talk to people and act interested in what they're saying. Showing outward signs of interest puts people at ease and makes them feel better about what they're saying.
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Call people by their names. This makes everday conversation more personal and makes people feel welcome.
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Give people a hearty hand shake or a warm hug when you meet them. Hugs are the best, but some people are uncomfortable with such close contact. If you don't know the person at all, stick with a hand shake.
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Accept people's help when they offer it. Recent research studies have shown that we're hard-wired to enjoy helping others and that it's one of the best ways to feel good.
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Invite people to join you in your activities. This is especially heart-warming to folks how don't have many friends.
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Compliment people on their appearance or performance. Friendly admiration is one sure way to make them feel good. Take care not tot overdo it though, compliments mean more when you give them sparingly.
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Listen attentively to what people have to say. When there's a lull in the conversation, ask them about bits of information you remember.
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I like that.
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GoodStuffs
Dec 10, 2008
Miss Eleanour needs to chill. You just can't please everyone. I enjoyed this article and found the reference to the study quite interesting. Is it so easy for us all to lose touch with our human sides. In this world of go, go, go, computers, cell phones constantly glued to our ears, faxes, and blackberries, etc, we sometimes do forget that those inate things, such as the need to help one another, and that it too, can make us in turn feel good..well..I tell you, seeing that made me remember why I need to try to start helping out once again. I couldn't disagree with you more Miss Eleanour. I may offer you, maam, if you find helping out your fellow man as you put it, so "elemental". why on earth then, wouldn't you do the same and stop your own "psychobable". You enjoyed the article. No need for the other critisism! -
MissEleanour
Jul 04, 2008
I quite enjoyed your article, and did think that it was useful. I must, however, take exception to point #4. You said, "Accept people's help when they offer it. Recent research studies have shown that we're hard-wired to enjoy helping others and that it's one of the best ways to feel good." I *very* much dislike psychobabble. Did you really find it necessary to refer to "studies" or the need to be "hard-wired" to know that it makes one feel good to help another? I believe is *so* basic as to have been the case since time began.There is no need to have a "study" or to be "hard-wired" to prove something so elemental, as it simply makes a person "feel good" to help his fellow man.
