How to Move In With a Lover

The moment when you and your lover decide to move in together marks a milestone in your relationship. The move gives you and your partner a chance at a new kind of closeness and happiness. Before you make the plunge and start renting the trucks, here are some simple steps you can take to make the transition from single living to cohabitation as smooth as possible.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

1. Work out any preexisting problems in your relationship before making the move. Couples tend to use cohabitation as a way to solve their issues, but most relationship counselors warn against this kind of optimism.
2. Talk the move over with your partner before becoming set on the idea. It's a big step for both of you, so it needs to be completely mutual. Discuss and deal with any reservations either of you might have.
3. Plan where you're going to live. Generally, you can either move into one of your existing homes or you can find a new place together and start fresh.
4. Decide for yourself whether you're ready for the long-term commitment cohabitation implies. Many couples view living together as the final step before marriage. Keep this in mind when talking to your partner.
5. Divide household responsibilities between the two of you. This helps you avoid arguments during the week about who's supposed to cook, clean or buy groceries.
6. Think about what furniture you want to keep and give the rest away to charity. There's always a home for a nice couch, so don't throw your stuff away.