How to Get Someone to Say Yes
Learning the art of persuasion is a very useful skill in life. The finesse involved in gathering someone in agreement with you or simply getting your way can be beneficial to you in many ways. However, some people seem to be better at persuasion than others. Learn how to get someone to say yes virtually every time you ask something and master the art of persuasive conversation.
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Instructions
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Ensure that your request is reasonable and will not cause harm to the other person before setting forth to influence him in your direction. Write down some of the pros and cons of that person saying yes to you so you can prepare arguments as to why his possible cons are not valid.
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Determine what you can offer the other person in return for her answer. Offer some sort of reciprocation or give her something she simply cannot refuse should she choose not to refuse you.
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Maintain a truthful and positive demeanor when posing your request. Make eye contact and appeal to whatever he finds most convincing. Some people are more swayed by an emotional argument while others are more swayed by facts and data. Make sure the person you are asking likes you, and if he doesn't like you then try to get him to like you as much as you can before stating your request.
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Compliment the person or something she has done as a means of showing your appreciation. The rule of reciprocity states that people will be likely to repay your favor in kind by appeasing you in some way. Pose your question in a way that does not seem like a demand or ultimatum.
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Offer the person something he cannot get anywhere else. A unique service, object, distinction or reward plays to the notion of scarcity, which is highly effective in getting someone to say yes to you. Be presentable and attractive in your presentation, smile and play up your own physical attractiveness in order to recruit a more favorable impression.
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Tips & Warnings
Convince the person that if she doesn't say yes, she will be missing out. Social validation and inclusion are strong influences for many people.
State your request with some authority, as though you are relatively certain of the implications of their affirmative response. However, make sure you can predict the outcome of whatever your request will be and that it won't be negative.
Do not demand the attention or compliance from the other person; it will result in opposition or defiance and will yield a "no" response.
