How to Make Love to a Virgin

The topic has certainly inspired many a teen movie, but in real life, making love to an inexperienced partner (yes, a virgin) is less about scripted moves and more about gentleness, compassion and understanding. She will likely be nervous, you will be unsure how to proceed and you both will want a few pointers. Well, then, you’ve come to the right place.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderate

1. First of all, make sure she’s ready for her first time. Many women will say they are, and yet… they aren’t. They feel pressure from their friends, from society, perhaps even from you.
2. Have a discussion with her about this and make sure that she’s ready. It’s a big decision for most women and you will forever be associated with that first time. You don’t want to be remembered as the guy who coerced her into doing something she didn’t really want to do, right?
3. Once you are sure she’s really ready, think about creating a special environment. Can you set up a romantic evening for the two of you? Let’s think about some things that most women would find romantic and sexy.
   
   • A hotel room, complete with rose petals on the bed.
   • Your, or her, bedroom outfitted with soft candles, even softer lighting, and beautiful sheets.
   • Does she like lingerie? Maybe you could buy her some pretty lingerie (and by “pretty” we mean tasteful; this isn’t about your own porn fantasy my friend).
   • Are you both old enough to drink? Perhaps you could have a bottle of wine or champagne available.
4. Let her set the pace. That is, if she wants to have a prolonged foreplay session, that’s fine. If she wants to engage in some oral play, that’s OK too. If she is anxious to just get down to it, have intercourse, and get it over with, that’s fine as well. Let her tell you what’s going to work for her.
5. Let’s consider some things in detail.
   
   • You can use your fingers to make sure she’s fully aroused. If she tells you she’s ready for intercourse, but she’s not fully ready yet, it will hurt. Make sure you do everything you can to ensure that she’s ready.
   
   • Caress all of her. Make her feel like a woman, by caressing her breasts, her face, stroking her hair and kissing her everywhere.
   
   • Tell her she’s beautiful.
   
   • Let her know that you’re having a good time, too. If it’s all about her, she’ll feel a certain pressure to ‘be ready’. This is about the two of you, right? You can help her get more aroused by letting her know that you’re having a good time too.
   
   • When you do engage in intercourse, go slowly and continue to caress and kiss her. If she’s properly and fully aroused, she might be so ready for you that she won’t even realize you are entering her. If not, your tenderness will help ease any pain or discomfort away.
6. Afterwards, here are some things to remember.
   
   • Lay with her for as long as she wants. She needs to feel close to you right now.
   
   • A little blood is normal. Don’t freak out about it and reassure her that it’s totally normal.
   
   • Call her the next day and tell her you had a good – no, a great! – time, that you think she’s beautiful, that you can’t wait to see her again… anything that won’t make her think it’s all about sex.