How to Get Stubborn Family Members to Look After Themselves
As family members age or become sick, they often become unhappy and unwilling to look after themselves. They may have lost hope, knowing they are living the last years of their lives, and they may feel like they have little motivation to do anything. You can encourage new motivation in stubborn family members with an unwavering commitment to changing their mindset and renewing their interest in life.
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Recognize what the family member must feel like. She probably feels depressed that she can no longer be as independent and active as she once was. The realization that comes with getting older or getting sick may not be something she wants to accept yet. If the family member is your parent, she may not yet be willing to reverse roles with you and allow you to take care of her.
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Acknowledge the family member's feelings when he acts stubborn, and show empathy for him. Refrain from pitying him, but show him that you understand where he is coming from. Encourage him to talk about his feelings, good and bad. It may take a while for him to open up to you since he may be embarrassed or just doesn't feel like admitting it yet. Give him time.
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Encourage the family member on a daily basis to look after herself. If she lives alone, stop in each day to see what she needs and how you can help. Remind her gently about daily hygiene and basic cleaning around the house.
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Tell the family member that your goal is not to control him but rather to help him help himself. Focus on your role in his life as a helper and not a dictator, and show this with your actions and your words.
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Take the family member on short trips or outings if she is not sick. Fresh air and light exercise can do wonders. Invite her to find the joy in her life again and find something that makes her want to really live, not just get by.
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Tips & Warnings
Avoid arguing with your family member about looking after himself. Remember to constantly reassure him and be understanding even when he's stubborn. Avoid confrontation at all costs.
