How to Get Parents to Approve of One's Fiance

Getting married is an important decision, but it can be stressful as well as exciting. The support of parents and others that you love is very important as you plan to enter into a lifelong partnership. If you are worried your parents won't approve of your decision to marry or your fiance, communicating with them is key.

Instructions

1. Encourage your significant other to get to know your parents before you become engaged. Parents often are distrustful of people in their children's lives who they don't know very well. Even if you parents are acquainted with your significant other, try to spend some quality time together regularly to illustrate the importance of the relationship.

2. Know your parents' views on marriage and what qualities they approve of in a partner. When talking about your fiance, make sure your parents know the positive and reliable qualities.

3. Talk to your parents about the seriousness of the relationship. Be honest about how you feel about the relationship, and make sure your parents know how serious and confident you are.

4. Ask your fiance to be respectful of your parents' values. If it is important that your fiance talk to your parents before proposing, that you not live with your fiance before you are married or that you have a certain type of religious ceremony, make sure that you and your fiance both know and respect these values.

5. Get the support of other family members, like siblings or aunts and uncles. Other family members who are close to your parents can be very influential, whether they approve or don't approve of your fiance.

6. Consider that your parents may not disapprove of your fiance as a person, but instead on your decision to get married. If you haven't known your fiance for very long, if you're still very young or if you or your fiance don't have stable employment, your parents may be responding to those factors. Address these issues with your parents as well.