How to Get What One Wants Without Being Annoying

Asking a friend or family for a favor can be a bit tricky. While you certainly don't want to be annoying by making endless requests, you still want to get your desired object. Before you go badgering family or a really close friend, here are some tips to get what you want without being annoying.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Patience

1. Determine what it is that you really want. Many times in life we get wishy washy with our desires. One moment we think we want "x" and then our heart is set on "y." It doesn't mean you can't change your mind, but you should make up your mind before you start asking for it.
2. Think about who the best person to ask is for what you want. There's nothing worse than badgering an entire chain of command when really it's up to one person to get what you want. Don't waste people's time who really can't help. Go to as few people as possible to get it.
3. List the reasons why you really want whatever it is you feel you need. For instance, if it is a car, don't merely say "because I want it." Convince whoever (maybe your parents) that now you'll be able to drive your brother or sister to events. They won't have to pick you up at friends' homes late at night. The more valid reasons you give them, the better chance that they will say yes to your request.
4. Take responsibility for whatever it is that you want. If it's a promotion, be ready to do the new job. If it's getting a car, be ready to pay for gas, repairs and insurance (which is not a small order). The more responsibility you are willing to accept, the better the chance of you getting what you want from a friend or family member.
5. Understand that "no" means "no." The most annoying thing is when you ask someone for something, they say "no," and then you continue to badger them. They will be more impressed if you quickly change the subject and move on from your desired object.
6. Re-approach what you want at a later date. This could be the next morning or a few weeks later. Say to whomever matters in your equation that you'd like the chance to "prove" to them that you deserve what you want. No one can argue with good honest will-power. And if you haven't badgered them to this point, they will be much more receptive.

Tips & Warnings

• Learn when to walk away. If you are trying to date someone and they are just not into you, move on and stop being annoying; there are plenty of other fish in the sea.
• Don't play parents off of one another. They were together long before you were in the picture and they will not take it too kindly if they feel they are being used. Instead, ask them for what you want together.