How to Get Over An Ex

Do you have or have had an ex-significant other that you felt you couldn’t live without? Now that the days/months/years have passed by and you feel like you’re going to die if he sticks around? Need help getting over him? NO! You need help getting over the things he’s done to you. You need to take control of your life! This article can help you, but only if you’re ready to kick your “Bad Habit” to the curve.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• A Backbone
• Self Control
• Commonsense

1. Have a little BACK BONE! Remember all the bad things that have happened in this relationship that makes you feel that things are over. These memories may be painful being that some are good, and most bad, and some you wish you could have back. This is the first step into a new life when you’ve finally realized that things aren’t working any longer. If there are children involved, it makes it also the hardest. Don’t stick out a situation because you want that family that you’ve dreamt of and hope for. You must remember that they see what you go thru, they feel your moods, and they inherit your attitude and the ex’s habits.
2. Find SELF CONTROL! Now in this step you have to learn how to deal with yourself. Usually when you break up with someone it’s said and done with, but in some, no, a lot of cases the ex just won’t let you go. Some threaten you, some beat you, and some make you pity them to sucker you back into that same crappy situation you’re trying to escape from. My ex has done all of these repeatedly. This is the stage that you need to learn how to say “No”, walk away, and call the police, whatever. There are a lot of things you can do depending on your specific situation. If the guys passive but relentless the word “No” should put an end to a lot of things, even your relationship. If he’s an abuser physically, the police are your best bet, they will file a report and if you wish they can put a restraining order on the ex. If the ex is a verbal abuser and he/she likes to push your buttons to get you to start a fight, then well you need to learn to walk away. In ANY of the situations you need to tell them calmly that it’s no longer working between you two and there is no more “working it out” time. Make it clear to them that there is nothing further that they can do to control you. Make it clear to yourself that YOU are in control of YOUR OWN LIVE, YOU, NOT THEM!
3. Use your COMMONSENSE! Now this is the part that usually is the easiest, but for some such as myself, it’s the hardest thing to do. This is usually when you’ve been split up for a while, days, months, a year, however long, and they come back around trying to get you to spent time with them. DON’T DO IT!! This is when they use everything to get you to go back to them. Promises to change, to get help, to treat you better, whatever their ploy is, it’s all an excuse, a line of bullpoop. This is where commonsense comes in. How many times has he/she told you this before? Look at your past, all the changes you’ve made, all the changes they’ve made. Did they change? Most chances are no they haven’t, so you’re better off remembering that and remembering that it won’t change until you change where you’re at and who you’re with.

Tips & Warnings

• Stick with it, don't give in! Make your life how YOU want it!
• If anyone is being abuse in one way or another, male or female, get out of the relationship. There are places all over that will help you and your family if you have one. Don’t stay for the kids, for them, for nobody. If you’re well being is in danger and your families as well, you need to think of them first. Get out before you can’t.