How to Attract Men – Guide for Women

Have you ever wished more guys paid attention to you when you walked down the street? Maybe they're paying attention to you but you want them to approach you? Maybe you wish more guys would get down on one knee and plead to become your man? Read on. I've got solutions.

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

1. Get in shape – If you’ve read my guide “How to Attract Women – Guide for Men” then you’ll see the first step is pretty similar. Most men like women who are physically fit, although you will find a few men who prefer more robust women. Even so, there’s no excuse for not being able to walk around the block without wheezing and gasping, so even if the type of men you are trying to attract prefer big beautiful women types, you’ll still want to put some work into building some endurance and increasing general healthiness. Besides, let’s face it, most men have somewhere in the back of their minds this idea that their woman is going to have a certain amount of responsibility for cleaning, laundry, yard work, taking care of the kids, and other household chores, so they’re going to expect a woman who can at least hold her own domestically and still have some energy for sex at the end of the day. Also, being in shape is going to give you more energy, and men will see you as more fun and bubbly. If you’re not gung ho about exercise, go for walks. An ex-girlfriend of mine started making a practice of going for walks on a regular basis and she got in fantastic shape.
2. Attempt to understand the male mindset – I’d put some money on the possibility that you’ve heard terms like “leg man,” “face man,” “breast man,” “ass man,” “foot guy.” Well, those are gross stereotypes. They’re superficial, shallow, simplistic, yet another attempt by society to sum up the complexities of male needs, desires, and motivations. But guess what? They’re true. You’re going to find that all men develop a hierarchy of importance of female physical features. Take a good look at yourself to identify your best features and accentuate those when you’re around men. It could have to do with the way you walk, your posture, or your body language when you’re around men, but you want them to notice your best features. If you’re after a specific man, even better. You can find out what he loves and try to show him that you’ve got it.
3. Look your best – Yet another similarity between the steps for men and women, because after all, we’re talking about attraction. Even though there’s a strange dichotomy in our society that on one hand claims looks are unimportant, while heavily promoting beauty and highly rewarding beautiful individuals looks are an influential factor in evaluating overall attractiveness of someone who is attempting success at dating. The goal isn’t to look like a supermodel. The goal is to look your best. Two of your best friends are going to be variety and experimentation. Try a new makeup scheme. Try a new shoe style you never thought to try before. If you wear boots normally try some opera pumps. If you normally wear opera pumps try some high heel sandals. Men love high heels, so you’ll have every guy staring wherever you go. Also, try on some different kinds of stockings or pantyhose. Each color is going to make your legs look different, so try on a variety of them and try going with bare legs. Wear skirts. Even guys who aren’t so called “leg men” notice your legs when you show them, and most men find them hard to resist. Don’t forget to wear some nice perfume. That can be a real turn-on to most men. If you’re looking good and smelling good you’ll be sure to get the attention of plenty of men.
4. Be realistic - It’s nothing new when we talk about how society has twisted up our impressions of ourselves and inflated our expectations of others with commercialism by portraying artificial standards of perfection. Perfection in realistic terms is actually just “acceptable” when it comes to human norms. We might think of “acceptable” as someone with whom we generally agree, someone whose looks aren’t displeasing to us, someone whose habits don’t get on our nerves. In other words, average. What we see on TV is not reality. We see faces laden with heavy makeup, blemishes removed with detailed post production tricks, images stretched to make models appear leaner and more graceful. That may be a perfect world but it’s not the world we live in. Unfortunately, now days more and more people are having trouble telling fiction from reality. Because men in general have more outwardly directed libidos, they are more prone to settling for what they can get. I’ve seen many women, on the other hand, nitpick every little detail to find excuses why they won’t date a particular man. He could be a half inch too short, five pounds overweight, have brown eyes instead of blue, have red hair instead of black, not have enough tattoos, drive a car instead of a motorcycle. It could be anything, but the end result is two more lonely people in this world who don’t necessarily need to be lonely.
5. Learn to cook – Ok I know what you’re thinking. Of all the nerve.. I can’t believe this bastard. This big headed fool! I knew it! Damn right…this chauvinist pig thinks a woman’s place is in the kitchen. Now, hold on a second. Before you hit me with a frying pan at least let me explain myself. Everyone loves a good gourmet meal, and anyone able to whip up some good grits is forever loved and appreciated, even if it may not always seem so. Any woman can benefit by learning some good culinary techniques. I’m not chauvinist and I can prove it, because I’d say the same thing about men. A man who doesn’t know how to cook is missing out a lot on the benefits it can have in a relationship. Women love a good meal as much as a man does, and with the exception of some really narrow-minded old-fashioned thinkers the majority of women appreciates a man who knows his way around the kitchen. Remind me to add that to the Man’s guide when I’m done writing this one.
6. Keep an open mind – Most women get hit on a lot more than your average man. I knew a woman who was pretty average looking but got hit on several times per week. How often does your average man get hit on? Try about 100 times less than that. So that means they have far more opportunities at starting a relationship than most men do. Then why was she still single? Maybe these men were all complete jerks and didn’t deserve the time of day? Unlikely. It’s possible that she just didn’t give anyone a chance. She was kind of a judgmental type, and was probably prejudging them even before they had a chance to prove themselves. When a man hits on a woman it takes a lot of courage. Even the best womanizers feel a bit of a rush when they approach an unfamiliar woman. The chance of them stumbling over their tongues is significant, and that can lead to a bad first impression. Keep in mind nervousness is always a factor during the initial meetings. Try to look through it to see what the guy is really like.
7. Communicate – Very few guys can read minds, or even tell what a woman is thinking for that matter. Unless you spell it out for them, most guys are pretty clueless. Don’t be afraid to tell them your needs. Tell them what you’re thinking. Make it obvious, whether it’s sex, affection, or just someone to talk to. If you’re interested be forward with them. Tell them your needs and many guys will be willing to accommodate.
8. Be willing to take chances – I can already hear the gasps triggered by this one. There could be a million rebuttals to this point. Women are vulnerable. There are too many attacks on women. It’s too easy to get diseases. There are too many unwanted pregnancies. I’m not at all minimizing the risks, but those are risks, not chances. Taking a chance when you’re dating is something where you have little to lose. What I’m talking about is not shutting a guy out before he even has an opportunity to prove himself. Too many women swat down dating opportunities, and that makes it impossible for them to ever develop meaningful relationships. You have to get outside your comfort zone a little to play the dating game. By doing so you’ll start seeing that more guys have the potential to please you than you previously thought, because you’re allowing yourself to see the good in these guys. That should lead to a good start in your dating experience.

Tips & Warnings

• Watch out for jerks.