How to Stop Thinking About An Ex

Are your thoughts driving you insane? Do you feel like a slave to your past, weak and powerless? Do you find you're thinking about your ex constantly throughout the day, and suffering as a result? The truth is that being caught up in this vicious circle is mentally draining, depressing and stressful. If this is you right now, you'll be happy to know that the way to break out of this cycle is pretty easy and ANYBODY can do it. Find out how and start feeling good again...

Instructions

Difficulty: Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• As long as it takes you to read this
• A new thought
• A pinch of discipline

1. Break the cycle. The reason why you're thinking about your ex constantly is shockingly simple to understand (when you know). It's all about how the brain works. Try this: interlock your fingers from both hands in a way that feels comfortable to you (depending on whether you're right-handed or left-handed). Think about how that feels. Now switch over - interlock your fingers one 'up' or 'down'. Unless you're ambidextrous, that should feel odd, or strange. Obviously this is because you don't do this often. Now keep switching between the two interlocking positions, over and over. You'll find after a few minutes of doing so that both positions now feel natural. You have just created and reinforced a new neural pathway in your brain through repetition. This is exactly what you've done by thinking about your ex over and over all this time!
2. Choose your thoughts. You'll be happy to know that your brain can only focus properly on one CONSCIOUS thought at any one time. Realize that you're the one in command - nobody is making you think your thoughts: YOU are thinking them. Stop torturing yourself needlessly by thinking about your ex when you can easily think about anything else. Choose a thought - anything. It can be an image, or a sound, or a statement, or both. Try this: "Every day I am better and stronger". This will now be your new thought for the near future.
3. Monitor yourself. Become aware of your thoughts. Now that you realize that nobody is making you think your thoughts, you can start monitoring what kind of things YOU are feeding your mind. Each time you catch yourself thinking about your ex, STOP IT. Switch the thought of your ex for your new one, and repeat it over and over again. And feel great that you're back in control! By doing this repeatedly (switching the thought of your ex with something else) you will eventually collapse the pattern you created. In short, if you don't think of your ex, thoughts of your ex will stop haunting you.