How to Be Whole Again After a Broken Heart

A broken heart is usually a result of a loss and/or a failed relationship. And, it comes with a myriad of feelings --- hurt, sadness, frustration, loneliness, anxiety, fear, and others. To get over it and be whole again, a gentle process is called for.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Honesty
• Open and "Creative" Mind
• Inner Strength
• Self-Love

1. Accept the emotions that go with the broken heart and grieve. Express yourself in ways which are helpful to you for a reasonable time.

2. Forgive yourself and the other party. Believe that everything happened for a reason and talk about your experience with trusted people (e.g. your friends, close family members, life coach, etc.) in order to get "the experience" out of your system & to look at it in another angle --- as objective as you can.

3. Let go of the emotions and other things attached to the experience in order to free you up of the unnecessary baggage and to open yourself up to changes or new opportunities.

4. Re-build your self-esteem using different strategies which may include the following --- (a) thinking, saying, and doing positive things; (b)spending some time with supportive people in doing things that you are good at; (c) rewarding yourself for any accomplished task;(d) initiating friendly conversations with strangers; (e) volunteering your time and expertise to your favorite charitable institution; (f) listening to speeches or songs which are inspiring or motivating; or (g) watching movies which are educational or can make you smile and laugh.

5. Spend some time to be alone (but not lonely) in order to heal, understand, accept, and love yourself as well as to prepare yourself for your future --- to move on.

6. Go out of your shell and face life again.

Tips & Warnings

• Be true to yourself.
• The cited process may be applied to any form of broken relationship: in marriage, in friendship, in love, in employment, etc.
• Remember that each goodbye means a hello to new beginnings.
• Since healing takes time, be patient.
• Exercise caution in expressing your emotions.

[OneiricWeaver]

on 9/26/2008 "..Remember that each goodbye means a hello to new beginnings."

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what a very beautiful quote. (:

thanks for the inspiration through your article.