How to face a cheating husband and mistress

How to face a cheating husband and there mistress and not lose the relationship.

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• Counseling
• Vacation
• Reality Check
• Pro's and Con' s List

How to face a cheating husband and mistress

1. 
   Love

   Reality check is first for you not your spouse. Looking at all of your options is key. First is this the only time your spouse has cheated on you. Why is your spouse cheating, you need to know this in order to see if the relationship can be salvaged. Why is your mate making it easy for you to find out there is another person in the picture.

2. 
   vacation

   This can signal that they may want out but want you to leave them. It may sound crazy but that is what some people do when faced with a choice, they just do not make a decision. Who are you and what do you want to see happen with your marriage. You can not lose your husband unless they want to be lost. Getting to the basic core of the issue in your relationship is imperative.

3. 
   Madame De Pompadour

   Counseling for you is important, you need to go all by yourself. This will allow you to explore what you really want. It is important to make yourself a priority in this situation. The worst possible thing you can do is reward a mate for bad behavior. In the end this will do nothing but allow them to continue on. Women have the tendency to want to go to war with the other women and compete. Your marriage is not suppose to be a competition for the man you married. Vows were exchanged between the two of you the burden is on his shoulders to want to save his marriage. If you have children you have to think about whether you want them to see this happening. Children are very smart they pick up on things and that is something you want to avoid.

4. This may sound silly but a nice vacation with you and a very good friend is in order. Even if it is just to a hotel down the street you need space and time to think. Honesty with yourself is best at this point, is he worth my forgiveness. In the world we live in today it is not just about cheating! His one night of passion can be a lifetime of pain for you. HIV and other diseases are a factor in all of this as well. Whether a person says they protected themselves or not you were not there. Are you really willing to take that risk? Maybe also a dose of reality is needed such as you and your spouse getting tested. If they are not willing to do this for you then what does that say about them. Ask yourself and them just exactly what are you willing to do to save this marriage because the accountability is on the cheater not the cheatee..

Tips & Warnings

• Counseling
• Get Tested
• Write an evaluation of your thoughts
• At any time you feel like slapping the taste out of his mouth that is normal
• Your on the road to recovery, first there is sadness, then anger, then light at the end of the tunnel which is resolution.
• If after all of this occurs and you still feel down seek professional help

[diamond4ad]

on 6/13/2009 Check out Cheating On My Mistress by S.Dodson at amazon.com !

[jpersing]

on 4/14/2009 Good point on "why your mate making it easy for you to find out there is another person in the picture" since most mates will deny unless caught in the act. 5*

[luv2blog]

on 6/24/2008 Food for thought! Thanks.

[adriennezurub]

on 6/23/2008 Brave article, Thanks.