How to Face a Cheating Husband the Other Woman Without Losing Him

This is a possible resolution to dealing with a spouse, particularly with the husband. Understand however there can be a myriad of causes, and for long term success the causes will have to be addressed. However i wouldn't resign to the fact all hope is lost as you still obviously care. Try to also bear in mind that too much advice can drive you to think things to be worse than they are. I usually aim this at friends, friends are great for support and the aftermath, but always bear in mind one thing, THEY ARE FRIENDS, they are bias to the end of supporting you. Having said that keep in mind how important it is to stay calm and keep your cool. Going at this with hostility or without proper composure combined with the willingness to forgive and move on can be a hindrance

Difficulty: Challenging

Instructions

Things You'll Need:

• A cool head, work out any frustrations you have privately and have a good night sleep. While emotion lets you know you care, being emotional or dramatic can aggrivate the situation.
• Confirm your facts. I say this because its easy to become paranoid and accuse things that are not true.
• Remember one thing, forgiveness is the operitive word in this. If you engage at a point of who is right and wrong thne there is no sense in trying.
• Finally try to be open and receptive to the communication. Cheating has alot to do with failures in communication, over communication, and under communication.

1. 1. As stated earlier get your facts straight. Be sure he is cheating. I know there is such a thing is spousal intuition, but then again its like the justice system. You know someone is guilty but they walk free because lack of evidence. This can be attained in several ways. You can higher someone to find out, like a private investigator, but this is expensive. You can go to couples counseling on the premise that something is wrong. If you are of stable mind and can keep open minded check their email. You do this by downloading a key logger program and learning their password, I wouldn't recommend this due to possible legality issues but then again its a semi-accurate way to uncover facts on your own.

2. 2. Ok you have confirmed that they are in fact cheating. Now comes the hard part, what I call calm confrontation. Make certain you have facts to bang through a denial of guilt. BE CALM. First approach this like a review. Why did you do it? Try to stress how important the relationship is to you and possibly children. Remember, in reality they are screwed. It becomes highly difficult to protect assets and custody rights in a divorce when they have broken the marriage, so you kind of have an upper hand. Most important thing at this point is determining the cause. This is highly important because if you don't know the cause of the problem, you have no precise way to fix it.

3. 3. Make sure your feelings are calmly communicated, whoever yells or shows anger looses, this doesn't mean be weak, quite the opposite be firm. But also convey a willingness to resolve the differences and also improve what the initial cause was. Of it involves looks, well change them, nothing is wrong with change or becoming healthier. If its boredom look for ways to spice things up. If its over communication, what men would call a nagging or negative attitude, examine ways to change. If its under communication or lack of affection, let this be a wake up call. Men are not like light switched and neither are you. you cannot turn them on at your leisure, but at the same time remember some times your not on and they are. You must be acceptant of this fact. In any case you must find middle ground and be willing to meet on it. But be firm.

4. 4. Agree with what is at stake, especially if children are involved. Then if everything is going well to this point look for constructive ways to better the relationship and commit to follow the plan. First step once things have been agreed to correct it is the cut off. This is where the outside partner is cut off. Insure that it is done in such away you can witness it, i.e. a phone call or email. Anything that can be witnessed and confirmed. This persons feelings are not as important and no line should be left for them to salvage it.

5. 5. I would highly suggest relationship rebuilding. This can and should entail things such as a vacation, Intimate evening, or simply spending productive time together. Many would say that this is letting them off the hook to easily and in some cases maybe. But what you are doing is disabling the cheating reason. Though the causes and motivations are going to very in the time to repair and make the change on both sides, there should be initial positive steps. Inflicting a "punishment" is generally only a unproductive short term solution. And could leave that person open to repeat the incident.

6. 6. Regardless on how these steps go forward. It would always be wise to go TOGETHER and see a specialist. Going alone can be harmful for earlier reasons stated about advice from friends. Specialists work best when both sides are communicated before advice given. The most unbiased advice you can receive the better.

Tips & Warnings

• You must master yourself and emotions when going into this. As extreme emotions cannot be shown as they are unproductive and end up reinforcing the bad side.
• When they speak listen.
• This Guide and plan is good for those who may wish to fix the situation. Beware that sometimes people aren't meant to be, like it or not, we are not all decent god-fearing human beings.
• Have your facts straight. Do not let your imagination run wild.
• Conduct the discussion with the partner in quiet place, one that will not draw attention.
• Be prepared that this may only accelerate a divorce, remember though you have the upper hand you didn't do anything wrong and they will be brought into public and private scrutiny, so you have some ethical revenge.
• Approach all this lightly before firmly. You don't want to add insult to injury, if they re sneaking around, the simple revelation of your awareness may be enough to scare him into breaking it off.
• Finally there has to be a desire on BOTH sides to fix the situation.
• I hope this helps and good luck, I had a similar problem and this went along way into resolving it.