Things You'll Need:
- A open mind
- Ability to look at things objectively
- Realize that nothing is done in secret, because it is not. God is always watching.
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Step 1
1.Know yourself. Study what you like and what you don't. Study who you are and who you are not. Act accordingly.
2. Identify your strongest interest and ability. Cultivate this 'special' skill/talent. This is something special that God has given you. This is what you are suppose to give back to the world. Invest money in this skill/talent. You won't be sorry. God will bless it.
3. If you keep trying to do something and it is not working, and everything is falling in, give it up. There are some things that weren't meant to be. Accept this and move on.
4. Stand for what you believe. Even if it is as simple as knowing what you want to eat for dinner. Stand for this. Don't allow others to talk you into doing something that you don't like to do or want to do.
5. Don't allow others to put you down. Speak up, in a calm, firm voice and state your opinion.
6. Don't listen to the negative comments from others. We seem to pick up on negative comments and use these to mold our behavior. Study the "Self Fulfilling Prophecy," which is "we will pick up from others and become what they want us to be." Stay away from negative people and people who put you down. Surround yourself with people who are supportive and value what you value. -
Step 2
1. Put the past in the past. You can't change it, so don't keep dragging it along with you. The past, if negative, will pull you down.
2. You must remember the past, what happened, and learn from it. Don't make the same mistakes, nothing more. -
Step 3
1. Don't associate with those who have different values. By associate, I mean spend free time with them. You may have to work with them, but you don't have to 'drink' from the same water fountain.
2. Examine whom you choose for friends, and you who are 'getting' close to. Don't look through 'rose colored glasses.'
3. Look at friends openly and objectively. If the people you are running with don't make you feel better about yourself, they are not your friends.
4. In any relationship, you should receive as much as your give. If you are not, move on.
3. Be true to your values. An apple does not fall far from the tree. If you don't appreciate some things about your parents and how they did things, you may have to seek out professional help to overcome some of things that your parents have passed along to you.
4.If you have siblings, and they are not treating you right, examine the past. They may be responding the same way that they did when growing up. Humans are creatures of habit. If your siblings cannot reach an adult level of interacting, don't associate with them. You cannot allow your siblings to continue to upset you. You must protect yourself. -
Step 4
1. Recognize your own limitations, faults, and failures. This life is a learning experience. We must 'learn' from mistakes. Do so. Pick your self up, dust yourself off, and do better.
2. Pretend that this is the last day on earth that you have. You know there are areas of your life that need to be cleaned up. Do some house cleaning this very day.
3. What do you really like to do? What helps you to relax? Does this action hurt anyone? If not, indulge yourself. We must all have something to do that we like to do. Not engaging in our special interest will make us unhappy.
Comments
Treciagayle said
on 9/27/2009 Dear lo-curtis, What are you trying to say? Are you still in the dark ages? Let it go. You will be happier. Concerning my statement, "You may have to work with them, but you don't have to 'drink' from the same water fountain," take it for what it says. You may have to work with them, which means you are obligated, required, in a situation where you have to spend time with them. "But you don't have to 'drink' with them from the same water fountain." I meant exactly what I said: "You don't have to spend extra time with them, run around with them, get on your knees and lap like a dog, whatever. If you are reading racists implications within my article, I fell sorry for you. Again, let it go. Concerning, 'I have a Masters in education,' I do, or really I should say, I have two Masters in Education, to be exact. I also am finishing a third Masters December, 2009, in Family Nurs...
lo-crutis said
on 9/25/2009 Wow. You have a 'masters' degree...in 'education'? Are you being 'ironic'? I realize that this is the internets and all, but an educator like yourself should try to show a little respect to the language. Also, I can't believe that you used the metaphor about the drinking fountains, (again with a botched apostrophe). You should add a step: 1a. Don't let people you don't like sit on the front of the bus.
Also, thank you to Dinosaur Comics for citing this article.
goodtry said
on 9/25/2009 Nice idea, but I think you are going against yourself with the whole "God thinks you're special" bit.
If your argument is that people should have less reliance on external validation, then using alleged divine intervention for justification of ability seems sort of counter-intuitive.
You claim that people should not feel bad when others don't support them. It works both ways: people should not feel good just because someone else thinks they are special.
prototype138 said
on 9/25/2009 Yellowrex, everyone must learn to be true to themselves. Even racists.
jared743 said
on 9/25/2009 I like the intention of this article, however, some people are needing to improve themselves, and you do not need to unconditionally love yourself. Ex) 3.4- "If your siblings cannot reach an adult level of interacting, don't associate with them. You cannot allow your siblings to continue to upset you." What if it is you who 'cannot reach an adult level of interacting'? And criticism is very often useful to identify areas where your method may not be the most appropriate. Despite being true to yourself, you are still capable of changing and becoming the person the one you WANT to be.