How to Have Children Behave at a Formal Event

Although it's a kind gesture, inviting your rambunctious children to a wedding or dinner party may be a risky proposition. Practice these strategies that will keep the kids on their best behavior and keep them from getting bored at formal events or family functions.

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Instructions

1. Bring quiet activities to keep the kids occupied throughout the event. Pack a tote with hand-held video games, coloring books and crayons, word puzzles, a portable drawing board and favorite stuffed animals. Also bring snacks and bottles of water.

2. Conduct trial runs at nice restaurants leading up to the day of the event. Reinforce table manners and using "inside voices." Use the opportunity to practice walking to the restroom without running and waiting patiently for the food to arrive.

3. Consider attending only half of the event if you know your children can't sit still for an entire day. For example, forgo the wedding ceremony (or ask a relative to babysit for a couple of hours so you can attend) and just take the kids to the reception.

4. Leave early if your children start acting up despite the fact that you'd like to enjoy the party or reconnect with your family and friends. Be considerate and put the needs of the hostess and your kids first.

5. Offer older kids rewards if they behave throughout the event. Let them suggest different "levels" of prizes that they can work toward by being quiet, friendly and well mannered.

Tips & Warnings

• Although your children will be dressed nicely, find clothing that's as comfortable as possible to keep them relaxed throughout the night.
• Don't bring your children to a formal event unless their names (or the term "and family") are on the invitation. Check with the hostess if you're not sure if it's an adults-only affair.