How to Deal With Hated Relatives

A person can choose her friends but she does not have that luxury when it comes to relatives. Sometimes there are relatives that a person just simply cannot stand. Those family reunions and holidays can be unbearable if an individual does not learn to deal with those relatives she thinks she hates. Here's a primer on how to deal with hated relatives.

Instructions

1. Put yourself in the relatives' position. Maybe their lives are just not working out as they had hoped and they take it out on others, including you. Some of the time the way people act towards you is not about you at all, but something happening in their lives or their own personality flaws.

2. Examine your actions towards this individual. There are times where you have done something to engender a negative reaction in this person. Just make sure you look at yourself because your actions are the only ones you can directly affect.

3. Talk to the relatives about their behavior and your relationship. Often disputes are simply misunderstandings and you may not even realize it until you talk to the other people involved.

4. Treat these people as you would want them to treat you. There are only so many things a person can do to repair the relationship but following this rule is definitely at the top of the list. If they still act rudely then at least you have done your best to make the relationship amicable, and someday they may change.

5. Stay out of the relative's way. Just avoid being in their vicinity as much as possible. After all, you have done everything you can do but they still insist on acting anti-socially toward you. Do not let these people's attitude affect your view of yourself. Realize that sometimes people are the way they are and there is nothing you can do about it.