Things You'll Need:
- An intention for healing and kindness
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Step 1
office.microsoft.comPaul Simon sang "There must be fifty ways to leave your lover." That number increases if we add the ancient Chinese art and science of Feng Shui to the plan... Stan. If life feels like you are standing in glue unable to move forward during a break up, separation or divorce I hope these simple Feng Shui suggestions will bring a softening.
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Step 2
office.microsoft.comSeveral cohabitating combinations exist. For simplicity's sake, I will refer to the spouse/partner/significant other as 'spouse'. Also because I am not looking at your home and situation, these suggestions are generic.
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Step 3
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The importance of clearing clutter and cleaning cannot be over-emphasized. If the top tier of your wedding cake is in the freezer, release it in a way that honors the intention set on that day. If the wedding bouquet is stored let the dried flowers go; this is an inappropriate energy for these times (any times!). Claim, in a gentle and loving way, that a new and transformed life begins here and now. Make every effort to surround yourSelf with what makes you feel at peace.
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Step 4
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The relocating spouse should ideally take all of their belongings to the new home. Having their things supports them in feeling whole, less fragmented. This situation also holds fewer reasons to glance back, encouraging them, and the spouse not relocating, to look forward planning their next step (as they are ready).
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Step 5
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The three main Feng Shui life areas to support a respectful, amicable, mindful separation are the Skills and Knowledge area, Relationship, and Family. This is not to suggest that family comes last, but rather that the energy of the first two areas builds a foundation to support your family in a stronger more prepared way.
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Step 6
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Standing at your front door, facing in, the Feng Shui Skills and Knowledge Life Area is to the front left. A Feng Shui enhancement here would be seven potted plants (roundish leaves, nothing hanging or cacti). Seven is the number aligning with this area; soil represents the earth element here; and plants represent wood (growth, expansion), the Family Life Area element. Blue earthen pots would add even more strength.
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Step 7
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You might set an intention for an opening to the wisdom of how to proceed for the highest good of all. Intend a willingness to see and honor the Truth of each other; or for profound understanding and happiness to fill each heart with the awareness that life is teeming with change.
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Step 8
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From the front door, the Relationship Life Area is the far, back right. Purchase two white candles (even if you already have them). Two identical, substantial candles, that you can light and know you are safe. If you are comfortable, do this with your spouse, if not, alone is absolutely fine.
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Step 9
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When you have quiet time, light the candles. Be still and write down what you appreciate about the relationship that was - open to gratitude and forgiveness. You may want to do this more than once.
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Step 10
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The Feng Shui Family Life Area is the middle section on the left, looking from the front door. This is the most auspicious location to place family photos (in wooden frames). The strongest photos to support this new dynamic would be of you with the children, your spouse with the children, or the children together.
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Step 11
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Please, no images of you with your spouse. The family portrait has changed. You're all still here, just configured a little differently. Include any photos of significant family members, and people who feel like loving family - this could include pets. This would not include a new romantic interest no matter how promising that relationship looks.
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Step 12
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Also add an item that would identify each of your children as individuals - something they have made, something dear to them that they would be proud to display, even a photo - let them choose. Placing these 'individual' items in the Family Life Area celebrates the person they are and acknowledges their importance within the family. Intend gratitude for an ever-evolving family rooted in loving-kindness and understanding.
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Step 13
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Please remember, whether you subscribe to the Law of Attraction or to what-goes-around-comes-around, be kind.
In gratitude and with an intention to serve,
Comments
davidomar said
on 8/21/2009 Oh yes, I have been in that feeling and knew exactly how painful it was. Moving on with our life was always seems impossible. Thanks for tips!
jpwriter said
on 12/1/2008 Very gentle suggestions for a hard time.
SunLightOnYou2 said
on 10/1/2008 I have learned from life that everything takes practice... and to become mature(professional) in love One has to break the heart many times. Or learn quickly that LOVE is all about letting go of (inner)fears and let the beloved ones BE who they are...
read more at http://www.sunlightonme.com
ebnickiea said
on 8/23/2008 great article
illuminator26 said
on 8/21/2008 Excellent article. I will be sure to try some of these suggestions immediately... I could sure use some positive energy right now. Thank you.