How to handle in-laws when you get married

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So you finally met the one- you are thinking nothing could go wrong. You love him.. he loves you. Then realty sets in and you meet his family. Here you stand realizing this is going to be your family. Does it make you want to scream? At some point in-laws will make you want to scream. Here is how you can start on the right foot!

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Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Step1

First realize that each side feels like the other is intruding on "their" part. If it's mother-in-law this is the boy/girl she raised from a baby and all she can think is she has to let go and she doesnt want to let go. If it's the wife/husband then you are ready to start your life with your spouse- not their family. Both of you need to realize that once you take those vows you are all a family.

Step2

Rules of conduct need to be outlined. Get to know each other and find out how each of you tick. There needs to be a respect there. If you love your spouse you need to treat the other party with respect. Be polite and at minimum realize that this person is IMPORTANT to the person you love and when you fight it's that person you hurt.

Step3

Forgive each other- you are bound to hurt each other's feelings and what you do from there is important. Apologize and work at having a good relationship. Even if you have started out horribly on the wrong foot sit down and make things right.

Step4

Worse case scenerio- you can't find a common ground then don't fan the fire. Agree to disagree and go from there. You don't have to be best friends with each other but you do have to behave when you spend time together. Take a moment and really look at your behavior and if you were in the other persons shoes how you would feel.

Step5

The more ironic part of in-laws would be as a young couple you hear woman complain about their in-laws and then they become adults and BAM they are complaining again about new in-laws. Make sure that your behavior is something to be proud of- take the high road and be sure that your not sacrificing yourself or your spouse!