Step1
Considering you have 100% proof that your husband is cheating, before confronting him, you need to realize that YOU HAVE DONE NOTHING WRONG. You have done nothing to drive him to cheat, and you can not be blamed here for anything. If he tries to make you feel that way, maybe you should reconsider your decision to want to work things out, no matter how hard that may be.
Step2
Tell him, in person, that you need to talk to him. He will probably already know what you're going to talk to him about. Chances are he will get defensive or try to brush you off. This is where you will need to have a backbone and tell him he doesn't have an option without coming off as hostile.
Step3
When you're talking to him, show patience, show strength, try to come off as angry, but curious rather. You know him best, so approach him without pushing his buttons or making him upset. You are going to get more information out of him that way.
Step4
Make it clear that you want to work things out. He knows he made a mistake and he probably is already very sorry and worried he is going to lose you.
Step5
Let him know that you KNOW what he has done and you just want to hear it from him. Why he did it, what drove him to do it, and what could prevent this from happening again.
Step6
Come up with a list of things you BOTH need to change to make this work. Spend more time together, be more open about your feelings. Both of you need to come to terms with what has happened and get it out in the open how you both feel.
Step7
This is going to be very hard for you, but you are going to have to show him that you are working on trusting him again. You can't all of the sudden keep a tight leash on him, asking him what he's doing, who he's doing it with, or where he's going every minute of the day. Calling him every minute on the hour is also going to push him away and make him think you are not trying your hardest to forgive him. Because that's exactly what this is, a forgiving process.
Step8
He is going to have to cut off all ties with his mistress or the woman he had a one-night stand with. But, that doesn't mean he needs to stop talking to every other woman in the world. If he has friends who are girls or female co-workers, those are just things you are going to have to accept.
Step9
Hopefully things work out for the best, but you should always remain strong and know you have done nothing wrong, considering you have done nothing wrong of course. If he doesn't change after you confront him, you need to be strong and make the right decision for your own sake.
Face a Cheating Husband the Other Woman Without Losing Him
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Comments
MidniteWriter said
on 4/7/2008 Step one is the best!! This is a wonderful, badly needed article for many. 5 stars!
farhkleel said
on 4/7/2008 it is agreat and helpping article. you put your hand exactly where the pain .the most pain full in the problem two things; the first one inside you feel guilty .and belive that something wrong about you need time to recover from this feeling ,the problem is conected with my feeling not what he push me to believe .the second is about how to pretend that you have courge untill your wound heel when it became real.
JRIngrisano said
on 4/26/2008 Lose him. Give him up. There are plenty of men out there who want a real relationship.
ADizzy said
on 4/8/2008 Nice article. Good point on the 100% proof. That's an excellent point to remember. you don't want to create worse problems by attacking your spouse's character without hard proof.
poobear111 said
on 4/8/2008 This is an incredible article. It helped a lot thanks.