How to Try and Salvage a Relationship After an Infidelity

When the victim of infidelity confrontation may increase your chances of saving a relationship

Infidelity usually results in anger and hurt taking over and the resulting bitterness destroys what is left of marriages and other adult relationships. However, sometimes you can work things out and move forward, sustaining a continued relationship.

Instructions

1. Choose a comfortable and private place to speak with the person you are in a long term relationship with. This might be a living room or den, or for some, even a public park or other outdoor area.

2. Focus on the issue and not on the anger and hurt.

3. Let the other person know you are aware of the infidelity in a calm voice and ask them to tell you why they felt the desire or need to cheat.

4. Ask them if they feel there is something lacking or weak in your relationship and tell them the importance of trying to work things out.

5. Seek ways to make the necessary changes to get the marriage or other longterm relationship back on track if the other person agrees that they do not want the relationship to end and that the problem has something to do internal or familial issues.

Tips & Warnings

• Mistrust and fear of your spouse cheating again can lead to possessiveness and blatant verbal mistrust.

• In addition to marriage counseling there are websites and other community resources to help.

• If an indiscretion continues or repeated attempts to work things out fail, you might want to consider ending the relationship.