How to Face a Cheating Husband the Other Woman Without Losing Him

If you have smelled perfume on your husband’s clothes after a long night at the office, or there are charges from a jewelry store on your credit card and you haven’t received a gift from your man in months, then you probably suspect he is cheating. Once you have discovered that he is unfaithful, and you know who he’s been romping around with, it may be time to pay her a visit.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Journal
• New hairstyle
• New makeup
• Computer

1. Before you do the deed, go out and get yourself a new hair style. Buy yourself a new outfit; a lovely skirt, cute shoes, a silk blouse. Doing this will boost your self esteem and help you to face the “other” woman with confidence.
2. The way in which you approach a cheating spouse and the “other” woman should depend on your motivation and desired results. If you are merely focused on revenge or putting them in their place, then you probably will be better off forgetting about this meeting. If you want to salvage your marriage or if you are just curious about the other woman, you may gain some insight from having words with her. Please, be cautious. This interaction is one that requires a plan and a strong control over your emotions, or at least, the displaying of them.
3. It may take every ounce of resolve you have in your body to refrain from choking the woman who seduced your husband and tried stealing him from you, but for your own good, I encourage you to try a different approach. You may even find you have more things in common with her than your scoundrel of a hubby. You may wind up feeling sorry for her.
4. Do not go to her, determined to tell her all the horrible secrets about your husband that she may not know. This will likely only blow up in your face. She will probably wonder “If he is so awful, why does she still want him?” Do not go to her and threaten her, this will only bring on more turmoil in your life and may cause your husband to pull away from you even more.
5. Be sincere, be genuine, and show this woman that you are more than worthy of your husband’s love, affection, and fidelity. Be empathetic to her position. After all, she must be lacking something in the self-esteem department if she can not find a man of her own, or feels like she is unworthy of a commitment from an eligible bachelor.
6. I happen to know of a woman in this situation, who met with the “other” woman. She was kind to her and approached her, mostly out of curiosity. After the encounter, her husband was so impressed with the way she handled herself that he gained more love and respect for her than he ever had.
7. Now, before you schedule this meeting, there is one very important decision you need to consider. Is your marriage to this man worth the effort needed to recover from his infidelity? Is this affair the only thing your husband has done to betray your vows or are there countless examples of his callousness toward your feelings?
8. If you have thoughtfully scrutinized your desire to be with this man and can truly forgive him in your heart, as well as risk the chance of him hurting you again, then by all means proceed with the meeting.
9. Make a list of the things you would like to find out from the “other” woman. This may include; where they met, why she was attracted to him, has she ever had an affair with a married man before, what your husband said he found in her that he didn’t in you.
10. Remember to be sensitive in the manner in which you ask these questions. Also, don’t forget that even though you are genuine and nice, the person at the other end may have no desire to talk to you, whatsoever. If this is the case, then hold your head up, keep your eyes and ears open, and protect your heart. This is your relationship and no one else’s. Do not let family members or friends make decisions for you. Only you should decide if you can continue to live with your husband and the mistakes he’s made.
11. If your relationship ends and you have some major healing to do, try starting a journal and/or a blog. It can be very therapeutic to write about your experience, and you may help someone else while you are at it.