Things You'll Need:
- To develop high self-esteem
- Lots of inner strength
- Good friends
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Step 1
First of all, make sure you really want to save this marriage. Is it really worth the heartache and feelings of inadequacy it will bring?
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Step 2
If you're positive you want this marriage, what about him? When you confront him with your knowledge that he's cheating, does he say he loves her and wants to be with her, or is he sorry and says he wants to make your marriage work?
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Step 3
If you both want to make it work, counseling for both of you is in order. You both need to figure out exactly what you're looking for from each other and what kind of marriage you want to have. If only you want to make it work, it will be harder, but counseling is still important. Go alone.
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Step 4
A financial listing of what he'd lose in a divorce may sway him in your direction. Over half of everything he's accumulated will be yours, lawyer fees are horrendous, and depending on what state you live in, he may have to pay your lawyer, too. Loss of time and a relationship with any children you may have will occur no matter how hard both of you try not to let it affect the children. Statistics of problems children face in life with divorced parents may sway him, and alimony and child support payments will take a big chunk of income from him, too.
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Step 5
In addition to counseling, you need a support group or a group of friends who can listen when you need to let loose.
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Step 6
Loss of self-esteem and self worth can drop radically when your husband finds another woman more alluring than you. List all your great and unique characteristics and have your friends list what they think are your best qualities. The better you feel about yourself, the stronger you can be to face whatever happens.
