How to Get Over Past Hurts Once and For All

This is one of the toughest hurtles in most of our lives. Sometimes the hurts are caused by others or other things (beyond our control) and many times they are self inflicted or self imposed.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

Things You’ll Need:

• Compassion
• Thick Skin
• To owe no man anything

1. Be HONEST with yourself – Are you being too sensitive (immature)? Use a mirror to see if the situation is a reflection of something you’ve said/done or assumed but don’t have confirmed knowledge of
2. Let go of PETTY STUFF! – Is it worth the struggle? It’s usually a waist of time and can lead to bigger unnecessary failed relationship issues
3. PRAY & THINK before you speak – Don’t go in with any agenda/plan other than to forgive (not to explain, to defend or to give your side)
4. Be quick to genuinely APOLIGIZE - Even when it hurts (the pain is temporary)
5. FORGIVE – not only others but yourself as well – Guilt is a killer and will destroy your health (literally). You suffer more than the one you are wanting to hurt
6. Seek PEACE – It’s so good to know that you don’t have to be perfect but don’t have to be defensive either

Tips & Warnings

• It’s less painful when you apologize right away because it relieves your stress and puts the weight of ownership on the other person to forgive
• Forgive yourself and move on – Satan would love for you to get caught up in a self-pity existence (Fight depression/oppression/self loathing)
• An old adage: Don’t point fingers, because while the one finger is pointing at someone else, there are three pointing back at you
• God will forgive only those who have forgiven (so consider the opposite)