How to Deal With a Boyfriend's Ex
Everyone has a past and sometimes that past can come back to haunt him as his ex-girlfriend. Try as you might, you cannot erase your boyfriend's past. Therefore, the only option left is to learn to deal with your boyfriend's ex.
- Difficulty:
- Moderately Challenging
Instructions
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Talk to your boyfriend about his ex. Ask him what were the reasons for the break-up and how he feels about her now. Try to be sensitive to his feelings about this person. If he does not want to talk about it, do not press the issue.
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Ask his friends about the ex-girlfriend and her relationship with your boyfriend. Friends can be a better source of information because they can have some perspective about how the previous relationship evolved and eventually ended. Understand that he may still have a relationship with the ex-girlfriend and his perspective may be biased.
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Be confident in yourself and your relationship. If you becomes too worried about an ex, it can hurt the present relationship. Know that he is in a relationship with you now. Investigate the ex if she is a problem, but do not obsess over her.
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Contact friends of yours about the situation and ask for their input. While your friends probably did not know the ex-girlfriend they can be a means of support in dealing with the ex.
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Speak to the ex-girlfriend directly about how you feel about her. This is probably the riskiest means of dealing with the ex-girlfriend. This could possibly make the situation worse and end in confrontation. Just remember to be courteous and respectful when talking to this person.
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Seek counseling if it becomes too much of a problem. An impartial observer can really help you work through your feelings about a personal issue.
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Get a restraining order. This is the last viable step, but sometimes an ex-girlfriend can get out of control and you may need to contact the authorities. Do not enter into this lightly, because it can put undue stress on your life.
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Comments
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catwalk0182
Dec 10, 2010
I currently reached #5 two days ago. My boyfriend and I are 6 months into our relationship. The problem is there is a child involved (their child). so completely cutting the ex out isnt so easy. She makes herself an unnecessary nuisance - Example each parent calls their child to say goodnight depending on which week it is for one to have thier child, the mother/ex insists on asking the child everything, every single thing she ate and drank for the day. My boyfriend and I may have to grit our teeth and bear this until the child is at an age where she can dial the other parents phone number on her own and reason on her own before the mother can be cut out of having to speak with my boyfriend. Advice/suggestions welcome. -
cajt
Sep 03, 2009
Trust me... I've have done ALL of these steps and the crazy person still wants my boyfriend back and will probably stop at nothing to see him with her again. I have literally talked to the girl, gone to counseling.. and even considered a restraining order. She has harrassed me for the better part of three years. It seems like no matter how hard we try to make a life without any part of her present, doesnt work. I've even thought about the sad option.. in theory, I could just move on and let her get what she ultimately says she so desperatly wants. The problem is.. It's not about her winning. Its not a game. Its my life with this person who I love and have loved since I met him. So now my feelings are.. how do I truly make the choice to not let her affect my feelings and not let the stress of her get to me. There are alot of events coming up that I am (DREADFULLY) not excited about. S...
