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Step 1
Ask yourself why you are dating a married man. It might be because you are afraid of commitment or suffering from low self esteem. If either of these ring true, get counseling to help yourself with your personal issues.
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Step 2
Hold onto your heart. Assuming it is not too late, do not allow yourself to fall in love with your married boyfriend. If you are with him for the sex, remain as emotionally detached as possible. If you consider him a friend, do not let your feelings grow beyond friendship.
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Step 3
Ignore his promises of forever. A married man may try to convince his mistress that they have a future together. He might even tell you that one day he is going to leave his wife to marry you. There is a remote chance that this may happen, but realistically, it most likely won't. If he was going to leave his wife, he would do it now and come to you as a divorced man.
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Step 4
Respect his family. Especially if he has children, it is important to realize that his children have to come first. If he has family obligations, they come before you.
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Step 5
Keep your options open. If your boyfriend is married, there is no reason for you to feel like you can not see other people. After all, he has a wife. Continue to date other people in hopes that someone who is more available comes along who respects you enough to make you his exclusive partner.
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Step 6
Find a close friend that you can talk to, who doesn't judge you for being involved with a married man. If you do not have a friend you can talk to, consider seeing a therapist.
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Step 7
Understand that if you choose to continue in the relationship with the married man, you have to accept that he always has to appease his wife, to keep your relationship a secret. You have no right to cause a scene, if he has to spend the weekend with his wife. You can't demand he not leave to go home when his wife is looking for him. Your relationship always has three people in it.
