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Step 1
Be consistent with the rules. Be sure that each child understands the rules and be consistent if the rules are broken. The punishment may be adjusted to an age-appropriate punishment--but, if it is a punishable offense for one child, it should be the same for all children. It is important that each child be treated fairly and that the same rules apply for everyone.
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Step 2
Praise each child individually for her accomplishments. Often, if you have one child that excels in school and one child that struggles in school, it is easy to praise the one that excels. Make an effort to praise the struggling child for her accomplishments as well. Even if her grades are not as good as another child's, focus on her positive aspects. Praise is something that should be doled out freely for each child.
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Step 3
Hold each child responsible for his actions. Whether the child is the oldest or the youngest, each should know that he is responsible for his own actions. Often a younger child may get away with something simply because he witnessed an older child doing it. Or an older child may be allowed to get away with things that he would not normally because he may be feeling left out. Don't make excuses--hold each child responsible.
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Step 4
It is important that you spend quality time with the family as well as quality time with each child. A good time to spend a few quiet moments with each child is at bedtime. Tuck each child in individually and spend a few minutes reading to each child or discussing that child's day.
