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Step 1
Allow yourself to feel the negative emotion. It is actually a positive step to allow grief and frustration their rightful place. As human beings we must allow ourselves the right to feel, both good and bad. So give yourself a time frame to allow yourself to feel the grief, anger, or frustration.
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Step 2
Share your pain with close friends, especially grief, but don't linger over it. Although it may take a year or two to work through the loss of someone, during that time you can be positive about other aspects of your life.
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Step 3
Whatever the negative event, acknowledge it, but also look for the positives which may come out of the event. In the event of a loved one's death, remember the laughter and the joy, the close times and the celebrations. Think about how the person affected your life in positive ways. Breakups are especially stressful because they combine grief, anger, frustration and a sense of failure. Remind yourself you are worthy of love. Love can turn out to be hurtful in the end, but it is never wrong to have given love. Feel good about your ability to love.
Try to learn from your mistake and move on. Perhaps you've discovered that you are attracted to a certain type of person who is not good for you. Give yourself time before you enter another relationship. Consider counseling. These are positive steps to a negative event which could ultimately change the course of your life. -
Step 4
Find a reason to smile every day. Whatever makes you smile, do it. Also, do something for someone every day, even it it is only to pick up something a person dropped.
