How to Get Over Your Parents Fighting
Listening to parents fight can be frightening and may leave you wondering if the argument was your fault. In some families, fights occur often, disrupting everyone and creating tension. While you might not be able to stop your parents from fighting, you can take steps to prevent their conflicts from affecting your life.
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Leave the room. Instead of joining in the argument, allow your parents to deal with the issue on their own terms. Remember, it's not your place to take sides or interject yourself into the argument.
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Approach your parents later, one at a time and let them know how their fighting makes you feel. Ask if there is anything you can do to help reduce their fighting.
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Talk to someone else if the pattern of fighting is escalating in your home and speaking with your parents has not helped the situation. A pastor or school counselor can offer guidance.
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Contact the authorities if you feel there is an imminent threat of danger to anyone in the house. It's difficult for a child to call the police but if violence erupts, it's the best option. The authorities can remove you and your siblings from the home until everyone has calmed down.
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Occupy yourself with activities outside your home if your parents are going through a rough time. If you're old enough, spend an evening or two at the library doing your homework or at a friend's house. Take your younger siblings to a park or for a walk.
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Remind yourself that you are not responsible for your parent's fights. Even if your name comes up in the argument, they are adults and they are making a conscious choice to deal with their problems immaturely.
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asea
Nov 02, 2010
Those who lived with two parents who hate each other know that talking to them and telling them how you feel won't stop the fights and won't change anything. It's good that in the US people can divorce so easily. In my country it's difficult, because people have very little money, and if for example my parents divorced, my mother would have no place to go. Therefore, they are staying in the same house out of necessity, but they hate each other to death. I am sure, if it wasn't a crime, they would have killed each other a long time ago. It hurts a lot to be in the middle of all this and it makes you feel different things: 1. you are frightened and you are praying that they don't get to violence, and if they do then you pray that they don't hurt each other too badly (in my country police doesn't really get involved in things like these) 2. you are ashamed, because you know the...
