How to Talk Mom Into Giving a Girlfriend a Chance

You think your new girlfriend is intelligent, funny, pretty and cool. Unfortunately, your mother is less enthusiastic about her. Use these tips and strategies to convince your mom to give your best girl a chance to become an accepted part of the family.

Instructions

1. Address your mom's concerns since she may simply not want you in any relationship at all. If she's worried that your grades will slip, assure her that you'll study before you go out. If she figures you'll be spending less time with the family, continue to hang out with siblings and stop taking calls and text messaging at the dinner table.

2. Discuss the issues in a heart-to-heart talk with your mom and honestly listen to her opinions. She knows you best, so seriously consider if there's any logic to the reasons why she doesn't approve of your girlfriend.

3. Find qualities, interests or elements in your's and your girlfriend's backgrounds that are similar. Let your mom know how you and your girlfriend share the same values, faith, favorite food and love of romantic comedies, for instance.

4. Show your mom that your girlfriend isn't what she seems. Encourage them to get to know one another better, particularly if your girlfriend has a false reputation or made a bad first impression. Discuss her respectable, admirable and loving qualities.

5. Continue to follow the rules of the house. Staying out past curfew, skipping family dinners or missing work will give your mom more reasons to oppose your relationship.

Tips & Warnings

• Don't argue with your mother to change her opinion or insist that she invites your girlfriend to family functions. Pushing may make her more resistant. Once she sees how good you are together, she may come around and give your girlfriend a chance on her own.