How to Discuss Midwifery With Family

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It often seems as though midwifery is a lost or dying art. Thankfully, it still exists in abundance, although it is not as prominent as it once was. Many people believe that giving birth with a midwife is dangerous and old-fashioned, and should be replaced completely with hospital births. Those of us who disagree understand that giving birth with a midwife allows for the two acting bodies to take their natural courses and to work together bringing new life into the world. If you decide to give birth with a midwife instead of in a hospital, it may be difficult to convince your family that you are making a good decision. Discussing midwifery with your family may be difficult and may take time, but with patience and knowledge you can open their minds to the goodness of natural birth.

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Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Challenging

Step1

Have patience. Talking to anyone about a new idea requires a lot of patience as you struggle to teach them about something you are already well versed in.

Step2

Know the answers to the questions. Do all of the research and ask all of your questions before discussing midwifery with your family. If you have the necessary knowledge, your family will be able to better understand the truth of midwifery. Hospitals have convinced many people that epidurals and bright white lights are absolutely crucial to a safe birth.

Step3

Prepare for questions about the safety procedures of midwifery. Also prepare for questions about what happens in the case of an emergency such as: breach baby, meconium in the early fluids, umbilical cord wrapped around the baby’s neck, or a sudden drop in the baby’s heartbeat. Your family will need to understand that giving birth with a midwife is just as safe-if not safer-than giving birth at the hospital, and you should be ready to answer a lot of questions regarding your safety and the safety of your baby.

Step4

Have clear and concise procedures in the case of an emergency. Do not give your family the “right” answers and then assume the birth will go without a problem. Move on the answers you give and put the procedures in place--give your family the proof.

Step5

Invite your family to talk to your midwife. Maybe a few of them can come with you to your next appointment. Giving them the opportunity to meet her and to question her will make them feel included and important to the decision you make.