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Step 1
Ask her first. Avoid suddenly starting a back rub unless she wants one. She may want sleep more or may have injured herself during her day, which may make a back rub painful.
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Step 2
Have her take her shirt off. Not only is it easier to massage her without a shirt on, but this can help get her into the mood.
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Step 3
Start at the shoulders and work your way down. Women don't usually like intense back rubs, so start with a feather light touch and gradually increase the intensity.
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Step 4
Place your hands at the sides of the neck and stroke toward the shoulders. After a few minutes, press more firmly into the neck with the thumbs to work out any tension.
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Step 5
Use your thumbs to press into the sides of the spine, but avoid pressing directly into the spine. Using your palms, knead the muscles on both sides of the spine.
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Step 6
Listen to her. If she comments on a knot in her back muscles, try to work it out. If she says something hurts, stop doing it.
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Step 7
Consider using a massage oil or a lotion. Massage oils make it easier to give a massage and some scents are relaxing (such as lavender) while other scents (like jasmine) are more erotic.
