How to Forgive a Girlfriend

Relationships are largely based on trust and communication. When a girlfriend betrays that trust or commits some other transgression, it can be hard to know how to forgive. But to save a relationship, there must be some attempt.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Communicate honestly with her. No forgiveness can begin unless you both know what the other is thinking. Let her know how that what she did hurt you and give her the opportunity to explain her actions. Both of you need to listen attentively while the other is talking. Resist the temptation to yell.

2. Put yourself in your girlfriend's position. Imagine that you have made the same mistake and consider how you would feel afterward. If you can feel what she is probably feeling, you might be able to forgive your girlfriend more easily.

3. Remember that human beings are prone to making mistakes. You have likely made them before and will make them again. It is not possible for anyone to be perfect. Keep that in mind and it will be easier to understand how mistakes happen even when there are good intentions.

4. Set some rules before your forgive your girlfriend. It will be much harder to forgive if you are afraid she will do it again. Make it clear that you expect the behavior will never happen again. Tell her what will happen if it does. This may mean a breakup or seeing other people if the mistake occurs again.

5. Take some time to let her earn back your trust. Even if you offer your forgiveness, it will be awhile before you can fully trust her again. Tell her that you have started to forgive, but that it's a process and not an immediate event. After some time, if she makes the effort to win back your trust, your forgiveness will be complete.