How to Convince an Elderly Parent to Move to a Senior Residence

When your parent can no longer care for himself safely, it's time to think about alternate living options. Broaching the subject of moving your parent to a senior residence isn't easy or pleasant but if it is the only viable option, it's up to you to help your parent understand why it is necessary.

Instructions

1. Develop an ongoing relationship with your parent. It's difficult to convince him that you have his best interest at heart if you call him infrequently and only when a problem arises. Establish trust by being consistent and caring.

2. Approach your parent before a crisis occurs. If she is unsteady on her feet, waiting until she falls isn't in her best interest. When it becomes apparent that she needs extra care, it's time to have a talk.

3. Consider his feelings when discussing a move to a senior residence. Many elderly people have spent years collecting items from family members and building a life. Now you're asking him to give that all up and relocate to a place where he will no longer live independently.

4. Point out the growing challenges of living at home. Gently show her how day-to-day tasks are becoming more difficult and explain how moving to a senior residence will ensure her safety.

5. Visit a few senior residences with your parent to allow him to see the living quarters and activities other seniors are enjoying. By allowing him some choices, he will be more likely to accept your suggestions.

6. Help your parent dispose of or give away her possessions in order to move. This is one of the hardest things for many seniors. Alleviate some of the anxiety by taking the time to ask questions about her items, what they mean to her and which family member would be most likely to appreciate them.

7. Assist your parent in distributing his major assets a few years before a move into a senior residence becomes necessary. Living in a senior residence is very expensive, and the facility may require all of your loved one's assets in order to pay the bill.

Tips & Warnings

• Above all, be patient. Moving to a senior residence is very hard for formerly independent individuals. They can experience feelings of helplessness and despair.