How to Help Your Spouse Feel Sexy

To you, they’re beautiful or handsome, magazine-worthy and downright desirable. To themselves, they’re too skinny or too fat, too short or too tall, not at all pretty and surely not handsome. While this is tough enough on your beloved’s self esteem, this lack of self sexiness will be very hard on your relationship, both emotionally and physically. However, there are ways to help.

Instructions

Difficulty: Challenging

1. Sincerely compliment them. Fake statements and over-the-top gushing will not only fail in helping your partner’s sexiness but tend to backfire and insult them. Focus on the things about them that you love and that are still ongoing. Don’t focus on the past; that will make them feel compared.
2. Avoid conflicting images and media. If your wife feels less than sexy, having magazines with fantasy women all over it will further her woes. Same goes for men. Keep the men’s magazines, pornography or romance novels out of your partner’s face to give them some ease.
3. Start the sexiness in advance. If you need them to find the old inner spark, start stoking the flames days ahead. Sexy notes in their lunch bag, kisses without leading to sex and other little jump starts over a time period can start them to warming up.
4. Be sexy yourself. Nothing helps a bad situation in a relationship if both parties are struggling the same struggle. Keep your energy up, keep healthy and work on staying in shape. Don’t let yourself go but keep yourself looking and feeling good. Your partner will start to see your positive attitude as an anchor and a place to start.