How to Be Nice to Yourself

All too often we focus on the negatives and what is wrong with our lives. Take time each day to look at what is good and to enjoy things that make us feel good.

Instructions

Difficulty: Moderately Easy

Things You’ll Need:

• paper
• pen
• 10 minutes a day

1. Skip the french fries Being nice to ourselves doesn't mean to pig out on junk food or to become a couch potato. There are plenty of activities that feel good while still being good for us.
2. Make your list Make a list of things that feel good. Think of easy-to-do things that you like but seldom fit into your busy schedule. Make the list a long one so there are plenty of choices to fit your mood or the occasion.
3. Take 10 minutes Resolve to spend ten minutes a day being nice to yourself. Try to consciously do this every single day. Choose something from your list and treat yourself.
4. Here are some starter ideas: play a soothing song and really listen to the music and words * call an old friend to catch up on their news * soak in a bubble bath or whirlpool tub * pull out some old letters to read once again * turn off the TV to romp with the kids or a pet; tickle and chase and bounce around until everyone is breathless * light a candle and dim the lights to enjoy the flicker and glow of the flame * call a new friend to develop a friendship * find a quiet spot to read a book * sing a song in the shower * take a walk to a favorite spot * take a ten minute nap * get out mementos from the prom or other special occasion to savor the memories of special times * make a list of good things that have happened to you lately.
5. 5 happy things Each day note down 5 happy things that happened that day or things you are grateful for. Even on a rotten day, you can find some small moment of goodness. Maybe it's seeing a pretty sunset or someone holding a door open for you. Look for these moments and it makes you more mindful of the good things in life.

Tips & Warnings

• I recommend reading THE HAPPINESS MAKEOVER by M.J. Ryan. The public library can interlibrary loan it for you.