How to Have a Good Relationship

Relationships are hard but compromises can make them work.

Romance almost always begins with a flurry of passion, emotion and wonderment, and the early months can seem almost perfect. Anyone who has ever been in a long-term relationship will tell you, however, that relationships take dedication and commitment and, most of all, compromise. The best way to avoid letting your love fall apart is to start with a solid foundation from the beginning. Simply do your best to communicate and be open and honest.

Things You'll Need

• Journal
• Pen

Instructions

1. Notice the things your partner does for you and appreciate them for it. This simple act shows your partner that you appreciate them and that you know how to express yourself to them.

2. Listen to your partner. There will be times when you are not remotely interested in what your guy or girl is going on about; but it is important that you listen with respect and give them your support.

3. Make your expectations clear. It is critical in any relationship to let your partner know what you expect from them. However, never expect your partner to meet all of your expectations, as every relationship is built on compromise.

4. Agree to disagree. There will always be issues that a couple cannot completely agree upon; rather than suffering a string of fights, it is best to agree to disagree on that particular subject and move on.

5. Respect your partner and yourself when it comes to family and friends. It is unhealthy for a person to think they have to discontinue their normal routine with their loved ones and friends after beginning a relationship. If you find that you or your partner dislikes one of your family members, friends or vice versa, simply spend time with those specific people without one another.

6. Maintain your relationship. The most important part of making a relationship last is the maintenance aspect. Relationships are hard work and, just like a car or musical instrument, they need to be routinely tuned. Communicate with your partner on a regular basis about changes in your needs, and do your best to make your partner feel comfortable doing the same.

7. Know your timing. There will be times when you feel that you need to talk to your partner, but they are unavailable. For these times, keep a journal and write down what you would like to say to your partner. This will help you feel connected and grounded and also help you remember specific facts or dates.

Tips & Warnings

• Your journal is a good place to write your angry thoughts. Often we are all too willing to say things we don't mean when we are upset with someone. These thoughts are best written down and than later expressed if they do not pass.

References

• University of Texas Counseling and Mental Health Center: Building a Healthy Relationship from the Start