How to Stop Being the Other Woman
Being the other woman in a man's life isn't a very respectable thing in society, however sometimes it happens without intentions. Everything may seem to be fine, in the beginning; you meet a man that makes your heart race just by simply talking to him. You might become friends that inevitably turn into more than just friends without even planning it. However once you've fallen for him, things start to hurt you more than feel good. Below are some suggested steps to take to stop being the other woman.
Instructions
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Find out why you got involved with a married man to begin with. Some women have underlying psychological issues that make them seek out married men. Once you figure out why it happened, you can either see a counselor or decide on your own how to stop being the other woman.
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Tell yourself that you really deserve better. Go over all of the reasons that you are too good to accept the role of the other woman.
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Realize that he is not your soul mate, even if your heart says that he is. How can he be the one intended for you when some other woman has already married him? If you break it off and he becomes single at some point, then you can truly decide if he is the one for you.
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Think about what people would think, like your mother or father. Would it be a proud moment for your parents to find out that you are with a married man? How about your grandparents? There really is a reason that you don't go around talking about your wonderful man-because he really isn't "yours" at all.
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Find solace in spending time with friends. Filling your time with your friends will put your mind on something besides being with him. In fact, getting your mind off of him will be a big step in bringing an end to this affair.
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Go out on dates. There are many available men that would love to go out with you. Possibly, you have already been asked out and declined because of your current involvement.
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Wayfaring
Oct 28, 2008
I have no idea why that posted twice or what to do about it - sorry. -
Wayfaring
Oct 28, 2008
I have no idea why that posted twice or what to do about it - sorry. -
Wayfaring
Oct 27, 2008
I have no idea why that posted twice or what to do about it - sorry. -
Wayfaring
Oct 27, 2008
This misses the boat utterly. I am involved with him BECAUSE he is married and will not ask me to marry him. I deserve what makes me happy, and this does. I don't want to get married again. I don't want him to move in. I want someone to be super nice to me and then GO HOME. I never thought he was my soul mate. Grown-ups don't think in those terms. My parents are dead and are not here to hold my hand. They get no say and frankly, I would look them in the eye over this. I do spend time with my friends. I don't sleep with them. I don't care how many single guys would go out with me. They want a future. They need to get married if they want someone to take care of them. At THAT point, at the point that they aren't so needy, we might have something to talk about. -
Wayfaring
Oct 27, 2008
This misses the boat utterly. I am involved with him BECAUSE he is married and will not ask me to marry him. I deserve what makes me happy, and this does. I don't want to get married again. I don't want him to move in. I want someone to be super nice to me and then GO HOME. I never thought he was my soul mate. Grown-ups don't think in those terms. My parents are dead and are not here to hold my hand. They get no say and frankly, I would look them in the eye over this. I do spend time with my friends. I don't sleep with them. I don't care how many single guys would go out with me. They want a future. They need to get married if they want someone to take care of them. At THAT point, at the point that they aren't so needy, we might have something to talk about.