How to Dump a Boyfriend and Not Look Bad
It's true. Breaking up is hard to do. When you've tried everything to salvage your relationship and nothing has worked, it's time to dump your boyfriend. Follow these steps to break the news to him gently, preserve his self-esteem and ensure you don't end up looking like a heartless monster.
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Instructions
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Make a list of your boyfriend's good qualities and bad qualities. If the good ones outweigh the bad, reconsider dumping him. He might be Mr. Right.
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Choose an appropriate time to dump your boyfriend. Make sure he hasn't experienced a traumatic event, such as losing a parent or getting demoted at work, right before you break the news.
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Arrange to meet your boyfriend in a public place if you decide that you still do need to dump him. It's always best to break up with someone face-to-face, rather than over the phone or via email.
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Choose kind words to break off your relationship with him and express concern for his feelings. If you come across as sympathetic, you won't look bad.
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End the relationship and leave no ambiguity in the mind of your boyfriend. Do not continue the relationship and then drop hints that you desire to end your relationship. When you finally get around to dumping him, he will resent your earlier behavior.
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Tell your boyfriend that you would like to remain friends with him if he's interested in a platonic relationship. You don't need to stop all contact with him if you're both mature enough to handle a friendship instead of a romance, and this will make you seem like a mature and grounded individual.
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Tips & Warnings
Don't overwhelm your boyfriend with details about why you want to break up with him. Speak clearly and provide concrete reasons for ending the relationship, but don't burden him with every little thing that bugs you. This will only end up hurting his feelings and making you look bad.
Don't hide from your boyfriend to avoid having to end your relationship. This will make you seem juvenile and will likely cause your boyfriend to have negative feelings about you.
