How to Break Up With a Possessive Boyfriend

No one has the right to control you or treat you in ways that imply that he owns you. If you are in a relationship with a possessive boyfriend, you need to decide to end it. Possessive relationships often lead to abusive relationships. For your own health, safety and happiness, you to break up with your boyfriend.

Difficulty:

Moderately Challenging

Instructions

1. Plan the time to leave carefully if you are living with your possessive boyfriend. Pick a time when he will be away from the house for at least 6 to 8 hours. This will give you time to get your things out of the house and get to a safe place before he knows you are gone.

2. Tell him you are breaking up with him in whichever way is most comfortable to you. If you are afraid of him finding you, it is best to leave a note at the house when you leave if you live with him. Put a note in the mail or call him on the phone to break up with him if you do not live together. If you fear for your life or physical safety, just leave without telling him.

3. Keep it public if you decide to break up with him in person. Make sure you pick a place to meet, such as a restaurant, where you are confident there will be a lot of people around to hear the exchange in case he gets out of control of violent when you break up.

4. Line up a safe place to stay ahead of time. Stay with a trusted friend or family member for awhile or check into a home that helps victims of abuse if needed.

5. Limit your contact with him or stop contact all together. Stick to your guns and do not let him trick you into believing things will change. Without a true desire to change and professional counseling, a possessive boyfriend will become only more possessive over time. He may also become abusive and dangerous.

Tips & Warnings

• Possessive and controlling behavior is not love. It is a sign of insecurity and lack of confidence. It can also be a sign of a more serious psychological condition.